Category Archives: Happiness

Happy New Year…Cheers to 2025 and 5 Years of Blogging

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I realized I didn’t post last week but that Wednesday fell on Christmas day and then New Year’s Day also fell on Wednesday which are the days that I typically post. December is always an incredibly busy month for me because aside from Christmas, I have my husband’s birthday on Christmas, my birthday on December 28th, my wedding anniversary on December 22nd. I have so many happy and festive events this time of year which I look forward to every year!

It is hard to believe that I just celebrated my two year wedding anniversary as this second year went even faster than our first year married. I do believe that when life is good, your life tends to go by even faster. I guess also with age, the years go by faster which is why it is important to cherish every moment.

It is also hard to believe that I have been blogging for five years, that’s half a decade! I started this at the height of covid. I am happy that so much has changed since covid and that we can put that chapter of life in the past and move forward. Since covid, I can’t thank the Universe enough for all that I have manifested in my life. I preach a lot about manifestation and I can honestly say that it works with the right mindset, positivity, and patience. As I continue my life’s path, I know that more abundance and many great things are in the making. This includes the next big chapter of my life: Motherhood. Although this is not happening until a little later in 2025, I feel that I have reached that stage in life whereI am ready to take a break from blogging to focus on my future and the exciting chapter that is about to unfold this year. It is bittersweet to write this last blog entry but I am happy to have been a blogger for the past five years. I feel that my content has touched many lives and my readers can still access everything that I have written in the past. Thank you to everyone who read my blogs and subscribed. As I end this, I do want to wish everyone an amazing 2025!

Tis the Season to Make the Effort to Be Kind and Generous

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With Christmas right around the corner–in a week to be exact, it is important to preach both kindness and generosity. While of course I believe it is important to be kind and generous on a daily basis–I do believe that this is the time of year especially to step up your efforts up a notch. That might mean tipping higher the next time you are at a restaurant or to someone who provides a service for you. That might mean making a donation to an organization or to donate items to the less fortunate. Whether you are impacted or not by a heavily inflated economy or the financial stresses that the holidays could bring, remember that there are always people who are in need and that are in less fortunate situations than you are. Many people often only think about themselves or their families but it is important to step outside of yourself and to think about those who could be positively impacted with even a small gesture of kindness and generosity.

If you are not in a good financial situation yourself and you truly cannot afford to be generous at the moment, then if you can find a way to be kind to someone, that could still add a lot of spiritual value to someone’s life. There are many people who suffer from low self esteem and don’t feel good about themselves. Simply giving a compliment to someone who isn’t used to receiving one could really brighten someone’s day. Don’t underestimate how little actions can actually make a difference in this world! 🙂

Happy Thanksgiving With a Motivational Message : “Say Thank You In Advance for What Is Already Yours”

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I know I have shared in the past, Denzel Washington’s “Fall Forward” speech which if you haven’t listened to it before, you should absolutely look it up if you need a little spiritual pick me up or you need a dose of motivation in your life.I just happened to discover another great message of his: “Say thank you in advance for what is already yours.” I couldn’t agree more with this statement! I am all for practicing gratitude on a daily basis because gratitude attracts even more abundance and happiness into your life. However, this message is even more empowering as it encourages you to not only be thankful for what you currently have but to also be thankful for the things that you are currently manifesting into your life–which are destined in your near future.

This Thanksgiving as we practice gratitude towards our loved ones and for all the things we are most thankful for–don’t forget to be thankful for what is already yours! 😉

Rejection Is Redirection – Learn to Embrace This New Direction

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Over the summer, I stumbled across a quote, “rejection is redirection.” I could not agree more with this quote! So often you see people react to rejection incredibly negatively. It can stir up emotions such as self doubt, frustration, depression, and basically put someone in a scarcity mindset. One starts to question, “What is wrong with me? Why am I a reject?” This is the wrong way to think! Rejection should never be taken as defeat. There are many ways to actually interpret rejection in a positive way such as: “The best is yet to come and something better is destined to manifest into my life.” “Let me look at this as a time to work on self improvement.”

If anything, rejection should serve as a MOTIVATING FACTOR to work harder at whatever it is that you want to achieve. It is not a time to give up on your goals or desires but to perhaps explore other options that will help you get to your end goal. If you decided to give up any time you failed at something or got rejected, you would never get ahead in life and would stay in a stagnant low place. You are also hindering yourself from self development by not investing the time that is needed to grow spiritually. So the next time you get rejected, accept it with grace and don’t feel bad about yourself. Look at this as an opportunity to improve your life and take the action that is needed to achieve your goals still–even if it takes you longer than you anticipated or means that you have to start over.

Relating back to the quote, sometimes rejection could also be a sign from the Universe that your goals need to shift and redirect in its entirety which might mean that new goals need to be established–and there is nothing wrong with that! Sometimes this is an inevitable reality and allows you to expand on other things you could achieve that you never had thought about previously. Remember that at the end of the day, under no circumstances should you let rejection get the best of you. There are often many silver linings in life and often rejection could lead to something much better in your life path even if you do not see that at the present moment. You have to continue to persevere and carry on with your life with a positive mindset.

My Thoughts on Botox and Aging – Is it Really Necessary?

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Aging can be a rather touchy subject as it is a question that many don’t like to be asked: “How old are you?” In your youth, you most likely didn’t think much about aging or care when people asked you that. Partially because when you are young, there is this feeling of invincibility. However, as you get older, you probably view life very differently and it can be a subject that you dread to talk about. The thing is, everything always comes down to your mindset and perception. As a society, we should not view aging as a bad thing. With age comes more wisdom and life experience which are both spiritually valuable things. We also have to remember that every year of life is a blessing and aging is just a part of the process. While it might not be the most physically desirable process, we should all feel blessed to have the opportunity of living a long life and prize longevity.

We live in a modern world where there are many ways to keep up with your appearances and still maintain a youthful look. There is also the freedom to do what makes us happy and make changes to our appearances if they serve as a confidence booster or make us feel good. When it comes to something like botox which is so readily available nowadays, while I don’t have an issue with it–I do think that people should not view wrinkles as a bad thing. It is totally natural and expected to happen with age. In addition, I also think people should really do their research and determine if it is worth doing after going through the pros and cons. Sometimes doing these types of facial procedures can actually make a person look worse and the person was better off not doing it to begin with. Instead of turning to botox, there definitely are more natural approaches to aging gracefully such as avoiding long periods of time in the sun or investing in natural skincare products that keep the skin smooth.

On the other hand, there are definitely situations where people do go far off the deep end with making dramatic physical changes to appear significantly younger. Again, I am not someone who wants to judge but I am someone who would want to examine why there is a need to go through drastic measures in order to feel good. People should really focus their energy in all their areas of life and not put the highest emphasis on their physical looks because looks do fade and that’s a part of life. There are better things to care about such as your achieving your life goals, pursuing your intrinsic passions, spending time with the people you care about, and other things that matter most to you personally.

Learn to Be Happy With Less – Here’s Why

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While I am someone who will always preach about the abundance of the Universe and how to attract abundance, I also want to teach a very simple and valuable lesson: Learn to be happy with less. That is not to say that you should deprive yourself of what life has to offer or to scale down your life goals. By all means, I think everyone should be striving for the best in life and not set any limitations. However, what I am saying is to actually take the time to enjoy the littlest of things and practice more gratitude for what you have achieved so far and what you currently have in life.

So often, you will see people compare themselves to others and be like, “Oh I am so jealous of that person for having that house” or “Why can’t I have a nicer car?” There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. There are ways to project this feeling into a more POSITIVE and happier mindset without feeling like you lack something. It is crucial to actually be thankful for what you currently possess at the present moment as opposed to complaining that you don’t have what you want right now. You will have plenty of time to also receive the same things from the Universe if you focus on these things consistently and your gratitude will actually attract more things into your life. It is also important to be HAPPY for others and their achievements. By seeing that others have certain things–instead of feeling jealous, it should be a reminder to self that if someone else is capable of having something then guess what–so are you and it is just a matter of time.

I think when you learn to be happy about the little things and without needing to have so much in order to create personal fulfillment, you bring an overall sense of joy into your life. Oftentimes, less is actually MORE and this is a good mindset to implement. This adds more meaning to the smaller things and then when bigger things are attracted into your life, you have an extra sense of gratitude because you weren’t necessarily expecting it or depending on these things.

The Best Time to Find Love In Your Life

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Love is a mystical human experience that connects two souls together. For some people, they might find love very early in life–perhaps in their teenage years and they manage to marry their high school sweethearts and live happily ever after. Maybe for someone else, it could take a second marriage before finding their true soulmate. It is important to understand that every single individual is on their own unique path in finding love. It can come easier for some more than others but there should not be a deadline in your mind as to when you find this person. The reason being is that you can easily make a wrong decision and end up settling for someone who wasn’t “the one.” You have to remember that every dating experience was just a part of the journey into leading you to finding your soulmate. So never be discouraged if you go through long periods without a partner or through horrible breakups along the way. This collection of experiences will ultimately lead you to the greater good of finding true love if that is something that you want to manifest in your life. The best time to find love as I mentioned will vary from person to person since everyone is carving out their own unique path but there are a few basic principles you can follow that will allow you to get to your end goal.

When You are In Love With YOURSELF – As basic as this may sound, it truly is essential for you to love yourself first above anything else. If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect someone to love you? You also cannot expect to seek validation from others in order to build more love for yourself because it truly needs to come from WITHIN. You need to find ways to accept and love yourself for both the good and the bad with a focus on all the GOOD things that you have to offer to the world.

When You are Not Really Looking – I know this can sound counterintuitive to many but it is amazing how love can find ways to find you when you are not proactively looking. The reason for this is that when you are too hungry for love, it can actually have the opposite effect and put into the Universe a needy vibration which naturally repels most people. When you are too desperate, you are thinking from a scarcity mindset where you need to cling onto any person who comes your way with the fear that you will not find anyone else. No one wants to feel that their significant other cannot function without them because this shows the person is too dependent on the person and on the relationship which is never healthy.

When Your Life Is Fabulous (With or Without Someone) – When you are living your very best life, you are giving the right vibrations into the Universe to attract love into your life. You are doing it naturally without any forced effort. This could mean that you are pursuing your passions, furthering your education, striving in your career, and/or surrounded by an amazing social circle of friends and family who adore you. People want to be with someone who is not only in a great place in their own lives but that will bring their lives UP–not down. If you are a broke bum living in your friend’s basement with a negative attitude about life and can’t get your $%^& together–no offense but why would someone naturally be interested in starting a relationship with you? You need to be very conscientious of your life decisions and create a clear path of intrinsic happiness. From there, you will notice that you will start attracting higher quality people into your life including potentially attracting your soulmate.

You Don’t Need Beauty, Brains, or Money – What You Need MOST in a Relationship

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Now I know the title might seem a bit extreme but I am sure that it did catch your attention (which was the whole point). 😉 I want to start off by saying that when you are searching for a life partner, there are going to be tons of qualities that you are looking for and that every individual’s criteria is going to vary. Most people are going to have some of the same general things while others will have very specific attributes that are important to you but might not be important to someone else.

Going back to what people “generally” are looking for, many people will say that finding someone who is extremely physically attractive or intelligent or wealthy will be on the top of their lists. I am not here to tell you that you should not be striving for those qualities if that is something of importance to you. However, what I do want to point out is that these are not only common requests but that they are rather generic and surface level things to ask for from a life partner. Ultimately, don’t you think there should be deeper and more meaningful qualities to look for?

This brings me to something that I personally find ESSENTIAL in a life partner and a quality that is not really talked about often enough. I would say that a high level of emotional intelligence goes a LONG WAY in a forever type of relationship. Too often I hear people say that they are interested in someone who is “intelligent” but that can mean different things to different people and what I might label as “intelligent” might be radically different to someone else. I also do not think being “smart” really adds a whole lot to a relationship unless perhaps you crave having intelligent conversations with your partner on a regular basis. Now adding that emotional component to intelligence is very specific and refers to someone who is able to understand, emphasize, and relate to you. This is so crucial in a relationship! It is important to be with someone who really takes the time to not only get to know you but understand you emotionally speaking where you do not have to explain yourself or feel that you need to be less vulnerable because the other person (sadly) does not have that emotional intelligence component in their brain.

Over the years, I have grown to value this quality and seek it within all my personal relationships which include friendships as well. Being able to create an emotional bond with your partner while also feeling heard and understood on an emotional level is such a healthy component within a relationship. In romantic relationships, I understand that there are going to be many qualities that are essential to you but try to dig a little deeper and look past the surface level things. While I do understand having an attractive, smart, and wealthy mate are ideal qualities–I look at those qualities as bonuses rather than essentials. Think about it–looks can and often tend to fade over time, being smart doesn’t really add too much to the relationship itself at the end of the day, and your partner can always run out of money one day. If you relied too much of your decision on finding a life partner based on these things then you will end up feeling very disappointed, unhappy, or left feeling empty if this criteria were to not stay the same over time. It is for this reason that you should opt to find someone who is emotionally intelligent which will better ensure the longevity of your relationship in the long run.

Relationships and Timelines – My Honest Thoughts

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I want to start off with a quote that I recently stumbled upon:

“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. “— Nora Ephron

I have always been the type of person to believe that when you find the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with, the relationship process will organically move into that direction in a rather smooth and healthy time frame. I never envisioned myself in a five plus year long relationship with someone for the sake of being in a long term relationship with someone that would not eventually lead to marriage. I never believed in having to force guys to commit to me or to ever be in a position where it would be a struggle to build a future with someone who cared for me as much as I cared for them. Trust me when I tell you–when you find the right person, everything will magically fall into place. You are not going to need to wait a lifetime for this person to want to start their lives with you because as the quote states, this person already cannot wait to start their future with you.

Think about it: When you cherish and love something, you want that thing as much as possible. You are not going to push it away or have to think about whether or not you want more of it. This same basic principle also applies to people yet so many people fail to recognize this. Why would you ever want to be with someone who needed time to determine if they want something serious with you or request a break from you when things get tough? When you LOVE someone (and more importantly, vice versa), you will instinctively do whatever it takes to be with that person. You will shift your schedule to make quality time for this person. You will make personal sacrifices for the greater good of your future. It also will come naturally to think about bringing both your worlds together and to create a life TOGETHER. As I always like to point out, it has to be BOTH ways. As much as you love this person, this person also needs to be reciprocating the love and be putting in just as much effort into your relationship as you are. Please do not settle for anything less than that or for a one sided relationship where you need to do everything all the time in order for the relationship to last.

If you are in a relationship with someone who you love but there is no clarification or security in where your future is going, never be afraid to walk away. You need to believe that your soulmate who you are longing to manifest will come quite effortlessly. You aren’t going to need to ask your partner questions like, “Where is this going?” or “Do you see me in your future?” The right person will not only find ways to assure you that there is a future but already be taking the action steps to shift your lives together. It is also wise to be extra cautious because it is very easy for someone to promise you a future with their words but not with their actions just to keep you around. If you sense that this could be the case, then you need to find a way to let go of this relationship despite how attached you might feel at the present moment. You need to look many steps ahead into your life in knowing that the right person will not only not walk away but also not let you walk away from them. The best way to invest into your future is to make the right decisions today despite how hard they can be. Never lose sight of what you are looking for along with knowing your value. These two principles will make it much easier for you to navigate your relationships and get closer to finding your soulmate.

Does “Money Buy Happiness?” – If Not, Then What Does?

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Many people hear the expression that “money buys you happiness.” While there is some truth to that in the sense that having the ability to spend it freely and providing financial security are very positive things that many of us strive for in our lifetimes–it does not necessarily guarantee you happiness. There are people who have a lot of money but might not know how to manage it successfully which eventually leaves them in more financial trouble or could bring upon more added stress into their lives. There are also people who have unlimited financial resources who live unfulfilling lives and simply aren’t happy. So what are some other keys to happiness that do not revolve around money? 

Pursuing a Meaningful Career That Adds Value to the World – It is really important to dig deep and determine what you want to do with your life and finding a career path that is spiritually rewarding and brings intrinsic happiness. When I say a “career,” that also can include volunteer work, being a parent, etc. It does not have to tie into a job that brings in an income but really just finding your authentic purpose in your life.

Building Healthy Relationships – People often underestimate the importance of human interaction and developing healthy relationships but it is very beneficial to have good people in your life. Even if you are someone that is introverted and prefer to spend most of your time alone, that does not mean that you should not have zero relationships in your life. It is wise to have a social circle of people who are there to support you and spend your quality time with.  

Loving Self to the Fullest – You might already hear this all the time (especially in this blog 😉 ) but you need to love yourself! If you are not in a place where you feel that you love yourself, then you need to determine ways to get to that place. This could mean finding a better job, getting out of a bad relationship that is preventing you from thriving, or pursuing new hobbies that bring you joy. It is a necessity to find and learn ways to love yourself to ensure you are bringing happiness into your life.