It is natural to set goals and to get attached to the final outcome of the things that we desire most. While you should continue to focus on achieving your goals and manifesting everything that you want in your lifetime, it is important to not become too outcome dependent where you feel let down or disappointed when you do not immediately receive what you want. This can cause people to give up altogether or to feel bad inside because they are not getting the results that they are asking for. The truth of the matter as I point out time and time again–most valuable things take TIME! If you understand this basic principle, then there is no reason to feel bad about yourself or that you have to quit working towards your goals. Instead, you should feel more EMPOWERED knowing that what you want is on the way. Here are some tips to help prevent you from becoming too outcome dependent while also possessing the mental strength that is needed to help you continue to turn your desires into a reality.
Practice Patience – It is essential to stay patient and if you find yourself losing patience, take this as an opportunity to work on this area of your life. Be proactive with your intent to enjoy the present moment while practicing patience. You have to cherish your present life as it unfolds into your future and be patient knowing that your future is getting brighter each and every day. Sometimes that means that you might encounter a few setbacks along the way or there could be moments where it feels like life is stagnant but never let this mentally cloud your mind into believing that what you want is out of your reach. Again, all amazing things do very well take time so be extra patient when it comes to the time it takes in reaching your manifestations.
Consistent Action – If you do not take any action, you are never going to progress or get any results. That is why you need to be super consistent with your efforts and take the action that is needed to get what you want. Even if that means that you are not seeing any progression at the present moment, remember that if you continue to keep doing what you are doing, it will all lead to the greater good and eventually lead to the results that you are looking for. It is important to keep showing up and staying self motivated when it comes to doing whatever action that is necessary to get to your end goal. If you want something bad enough then giving up is NEVER an option!
Continue to Trust the Process – I know I preach this concept quite often but that is because I find that most people fail to trust the process and are clouded with lots of negative thoughts along with uncertainty. Uncertainty is the OPPOSITE of trust. It is natural to feel uncertain in regards to different areas of your life and the rate in which it is progressing but you need to stay mentally strong and TRUST that everything is okay and that you are on a path that is leading to your most desired outcomes. As I put it, you need to mentally believe that whatever it is that you want is “in the bag” meaning that it is inevitable that you will possess it–no matter how long it takes. Don’t forget that when you “trust the process” that you are CERTAIN that whatever it is that you are looking to receive will arrive within your future.
It is funny to me that we live in a world that is so influenced by the outer world, more specifically by social media platforms. Oftentimes, people will find complete strangers and people that they do not know in real life to follow their every move. If this influencer buys a certain product, then the follower is more inclined to purchase it too. This is why there is a lot of money to be made if you are an influencer with an abundant following because companies know that their followers will most likely purchase what they promote. It is for this reason, I do not really buy into what influencers are promoting. Most of them are selling products to earn an income so who really knows if they use these products or are just talking about them to make a living.
There is nothing wrong with following people and having an interest in what influencers post on social media; however, I think people should work on their own self development and think more independently as opposed to caring so much about what others are sharing. As I mentioned previously, it is hard to really know if they are sharing content to make money or from a genuine place. It is much better to follow your natural inclinations and to think for yourself than to put all your energy into what other people are doing. Think about what your goals are and what makes you happy because that is ultimately what counts most above anything else.At the end of the day, be your own influencer and stay true to your values, desires, and path.
I have always enjoyed playing the game chess because in order to be a good player, you need to be able to think a few steps ahead when you are moving the pieces in hopes to checkmate the other opponent’s king by the very end. I also like to play chess because I like games that involve strategy and that are mentally challenging. Does playing a game of chess apply to life? In my opinion, it very much does so!
When it comes to life, an important question that you should always be asking yourself is, “what is your next move?” This allows for you to think about your future and to plan the action steps that are needed to get to your desired outcome. If you choose to live day by day without looking at the bigger picture, you might end up staying stagnant in life for quite some time and you also run the risk of limiting your full potential. It is for this reason that you should always be asking what your next move is whether it be within your professional or personal life. It matters to focus on the direction that you want to go and to take the steps necessary to keep you on the right track. Whether it is a game of chess or your life, every move you make matters so think thoroughly and with a purpose!
One of the many themes of this blog is the topic of self love. What is “self love” exactly? I would describe self love as having a good level of inner confidence along with self respect. When you possess self love, it serves as a spiritual asset to guide your life’s path and allow for you to make the right decisions in order to live your very best life. For example, when you are dating, having a high level of self love will ensure that you are not being mistreated or taken advantage of because you love yourself enough to set the right boundaries and terminate any relationship that does not best suit you. In your professional life, self love can be used as a self motivator by pushing you to strive for everything that you believe that you deserve.
If you do not feel that you are in a good place within your life, it is a good idea to examine self and determine what areas need improvement and ways in which you can increase self love. I truly believe that if you have self love, you will pursue your life with a purpose and find genuine happiness no matter what you do in the outside world because of the fact that you feel so good on the inside. It is natural to feel down every so often but if at the core, you love who you are as a person and know your self worth, you will always rise above. This is why you have to make it a point to focus on building self love because it will not only enhance you as a person but also have the capacity to enhance your life.
People focus much of their attention on appearances and by that, I do not just mean their outward appearance such as their physical looks but also how they appear to other people. We live in a society that very much judges others based on what is seen on the exterior. I understand that it is for this reason why people put such a huge emphasis on how they come across and are seen by others in real life and on social media. However, people should really put more of their attention towards building up their substance as individuals and who they are in the inside and not just the outside.
This is why you often hear, “don’t judge a book by its cover” because there is definitely validity behind this common adage. I can think of a handful of times where I misjudged people based on appearances and I was totally wrong about the person. I am sure everyone has experienced this before for the good or for the bad. This goes with attraction too where someone might not be as physically attractive in your eyes but because the person has substance and truly is beautiful in the inside, this makes the person an attractive one despite the exterior. In contrast, you might meet someone who you find to be incredibly good looking but because there is a lack of substance and/or chemistry, you do not view the person as attractive anymore. It is kind of like an optical illusion where what you see is not what you get which is why looks really are not everything!
Substance is an asset that often is never mentioned but holds so much value and in some, is never really fully developed. The good news is that there are ways to build up substance and to make this a focal point in your self development. I believe the best way to do this is to cultivate your passions and interests on an authentic level. In other words, do not go through the motions of doing things for the sake of it or because you see everyone doing something on social media. You need to figure out what brings you joy and what are the things that you most naturally gravitate towards most. Everyone is born with their own unique set of talents, interests, strengths, and abilities. It is your job to determine what they are and to expand on them. This will not only bring you genuine happiness in life but oftentimes it will fulfill a purpose by providing meaning and substance to the core of your soul. Substance is what carries you in life and serves as a helpful tool to attract the right opportunities and people into your Universe which is why it is a necessity to possess a good amount of it.
Often times I write about the importance of tracking things such as your goals, finances, and other vital areas in your life as a way to measure your progress. While some might think it is a waste of time or that it is unnecessary, I do believe that taking the time to track it down will put you on the right path of success and that as a result, you are bound to make improvements in your life. This is because you are putting a focus on what you want and paying attention to your progress over time. If you want to maximize your potential, it is time to start tracking it!
For me personally, I like to write things in a physical journal by hand although there are other options such as tracking digitally on a spreadsheet or on a phone app. There are many phone apps today that make it easy to track things such as your fitness and financial goals. Everyone has a different approach so it is good to find what works best for you. All that matters is that you start and make it a daily habit. It is amazing to look back at where you started and satisfying when you can see actual progression over time. In order to improve your current life and to achieve what you desire most, it is time to get serious about your goals by not only writing them down but also keeping tabs on your progress by recording it each day.
Success often comes down to having the right mindset and developed habits along with taking consistent action to ensure results. While many might have their best intentions set to be successful at something or to achieve a goal, not everyone is able to follow through. I think there are various reasons for this and if one takes the time to examine the underlying issue that is setting them them back from success, one can fix the problem and work on overcoming these obstacles.
People Don’t Know Specifically What They Want – For many, people don’t think about what they truly want in their lifetime and just live day by day without looking at brightening their future. People might be able to make general claims such as wanting to be rich, healthy, successful, etc; however, that is not specific enough. My question would be, “Well what does success mean to you? How do you define it for yourself personally?”
Solution: This is where it is helpful to dig deep and mentally map out everything that you want and define every little detail. Even if your definition of success seems very far from your current reality, that is okay! At least you have a concrete vision of what you want and from there, you can create a plan to fulfill this vision.
People Don’t Want Things Bad Enough – There are people who claim they want something but then do absolutely nothing about it. If someone is not doing much about it, my immediate thought is that this person does not want it bad enough because if they did, they would make some changes and the sacrifices needed to reach their end goal.
Solution: Again, this is why it is important to define exactly what you want, not just semi want. If you are not too passionate about something, then you need to find something that you authentically care about. As a result, you will find that you are more motivated to manifest your desires when it is actually something that you want bad enough.
People Don’t Know Where to Start and End Up No Where – Many people are afraid to start something new or simply don’t know where to start to get to where they want to be. When people feel hopeless and stuck, they tend to do nothing at all meaning that they stay stagnant and never progress in life.
Solution: The truth of the matter is, many worthwhile things in life take time and it is not going to happen overnight. Knowing this, the solution is to take baby steps because every little action you take is going to get you closer to achieving your goals. Remember that moving towards something is better than not moving at all.
I was reflecting on my life very much at the start of the new year and while I know I live a blessed life, I also know that I live an extremely happy and fulfilling one as well. People who know me personally know that I am not someone who gets sad easily and depression is definitely not something I can say I have truly ever experienced on a deep level. Of course there are days that bring its challenges but in the grand scheme of things, I love the life I am creating everyday and genuinely am a happy individual. Am I just born this way or am I doing something differently?Can others learn to live happier lives themselves?
My biggest advice is simple and it is a general principle that I have applied throughout my entire lifetime, both on a conscious and subconscious level: Find meaningfulness in your life and you will always find happiness. It is important to find meaning in all areas of your life whether it be within your profession, relationships, friendships, hobbies, etc. By finding meaning, I mean actually have a genuine connection and affinity towards everything you pursue. Don’t waste your time working for a company that you hate and that brings you down. Don’t invest your time in meaningless relationships that don’t have a significant impact on your heart. Don’t go through the motions of life because you feel you are “supposed to do something” or because “everyone is doing it.” You need to carve your own path and strive to find meaning behind everything that you do and happiness will always follow.
Today is Thanksgiving and I did not plan on writing much because I wanted to enjoy the day with family and loved ones but I also did not want the day to go by without putting out a warm holiday greeting. If you celebrate, I hope you find a way to cherish this time as a time of gratitude. Be thankful for the people you have in your life. Be thankful for everything you have right now. Ultimately, be thankful today but everyday because there is always something to be grateful for!
Also a huge thank you to those who take the time to visit my blog or choose to subscribe and follow my posts. Blogging is a wonderful hobby but also a great platform to express my thoughts within this modern digital world we live in and to connect with others! It is a very cool extension of my life and I am grateful to have a place where I can promote positivity and influence others to live their very best lives! 🙂 Thank you everyone for reading, I genuinely appreciate the love and support–you all are wonderful and mean the world to me! ❤
Throughout life, everyone should make it a point to set personal goals for themselves. After completing a goal, you might find a way to celebrate your achievements or feel an inner sense of personal fulfillment as you should. However, from there it is important to expand on your goals and/or to create new ones in order to keep progressing in life. That is why as the title states, “just when you think you’re done, you have just begun.” In other words, just when you think, “mission accomplished,” it is actually just the beginning because there is still so much to achieve within one’s lifetime!
Similar to playing a video game, we live our lives navigating from one level to the next. No one wants to stay on the same level forever as staying stagnant can get very boring. At the same time, it is okay if certain levels take longer to master than others because if you are blazing through too quickly, that could mean that you are not challenging yourself enough to begin with. It is important to take the time to really examine where you are right now and to more thoroughly think about what the next level or goal you are looking to achieve means to you. From there, it is up to you to take the action needed to fulfill your goals and from there plan on striving for even more. Remember that abundance attracts even more abundance which is why it is essential to always be aspiring to acquire the most out of life!