This morning I attended a high school graduation ceremony where I found a ton of handmade signs displayed throughout the campus. While many focused on congratulating the Class of 2021, I could not help but notice a sign that read, “Stop waiting for things to happen, go out and make them happen.” I took a moment to snap a photo of it so I could post it onto my blog because it’s definitely both a powerful and motivating message.
I value that it is a rather straightforward statement and one that anyone can apply to one’s own life. People need to learn to create opportunities and attract positive life experiences by actually going out there and making them happen. If you just sit around and expect opportunities to knock on your door, then the people who actually are going out there to grab them are always going to be the ones who obtain the opportunity before you do.
Every action step you take is always better than no action at all. It is amazing that a collection of actions can add up and really create an impact over time. Never get discouraged by the process and the time it takes to get to the end goal because it is worth it in the long run. Everyone is capable of achieving great things but it is always up to the individual to determine the quality and the quantity. We all can create a bright and beautiful destiny–all it takes is taking the action necessary to make it happen which can be done by taking it one day at a time.
The title of this post is actually something I discovered at random on an Instagram caption yesterday and I googled it out of intrigue to see that this is an existing quote in which I wanted to share and reflect upon with my readers. How often have we heard the common expression, “Don’t settle for less than you deserve?” Although I do agree with this and believe we as individuals are the ones determining what we deserve versus what is unacceptable, I actually like this quote even better: “Don’t settle for less just because it’s available.”
The reason why I want to expound on this quote is because it tends to be human nature for people to settle on things simply based on its availability–jobs, relationships, etc. I understand on the one hand that we should accept any opportunities that come our way once they present themselves but what if we every so often turned down what’s available (aka convenient, easy, and perhaps comfortable) to see what else is out there along with striving for something even better? The reason being that availability is NOT ENOUGH! Let’s not settle for something just based on its availability and dig deeper as to what we really want and take the time needed to manifest it.
The key behind manifestation all begins with your mindset–above anything else. It is up to you to keep your mind strong, positive, and focused on what you want to achieve in your lifetime. We all have one life to live, so why can’t it be to our level of extraordinary? Be mindful that the things that are most worth your while are going to require time, patience, discipline, and much more–it is not merely a collection of positive thoughts in your head as there needs to be action to back it up but it certainly is the right start because thoughts do very well become things.
Never lose sight that life is full of an infinite amount of positive outcomes. I will write it again: Life is full of an infinite amount of positive outcomes. If you are aware that this is one of life’s many truths and believe this statement with conviction then you will always attract abundance into your life and not be in a position where settling on availability is your only option. Trust me, we live in a world where there are plenty of options (an infinity actually) 🙂 so keep your mind open to what’s out there–even if that means that it is not available just yet at the present moment because the best is yet to come.
People often hear the expression, “Never say never.” This can be interpreted in different ways but essentially you should not limit yourself and say you cannot do something or achieve anything that you truly want. More specifically, Michael Jordan took it a step further by saying in his Hall of Fame induction address:
“Never say never. Because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion.” — Michael Jordan
Think about it, the biggest setbacks originate from your own mind. Perhaps other people have the power to create doubts in your head but that does NOT mean you have to listen to them. There is no need to waste your energy on people who try to put you down. It is for this reason, you need to be aware of your inner most thoughts by proactively developing a mindset that is strong and unstoppable along with blocking any negativity from evolving in the first place. It is natural to experience fears from time to time but as Michael Jordan states, they are often just an illusion.
At the end of the day, your reality starts with YOU. Anything is possible and becomes a high possibility if you actually believe in your full potential. Learn to actually “never say never” and achieve what you can, even if that means you have to start small or from absolutely nothing. I will also leave you with another great Michael Jordan quote that I also recently discovered: “You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them.” This is incredibly accurate and correlates with what I like to preach within my blog the importance of setting the bar high in all areas of your life. Even if there are some failures along the way or you do not reach your target at all times, it is still better than settling for less than what you are capable of.
A Greek friend had once shared with me the expression, “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are.” On the surface, it can come across as judgmental and not really of complete accuracy. It can be interpreted that your friends are exactly like you; however, I think that is taking it way too literally. When I think about my closest friends, sure–we share some commonalities but none of them are “exactly like me.” What the takeaway is that the friends who you choose to be a part of your support system are a reflection of who you are and often represent your core values. Typically, the people you gravitate towards have the qualities, interests, goals, beliefs, and other important attributes that you appreciate most.
I think that the underlying meaning of this expression is that the friends who you choose not only display their character but also reveal your true character. Think about it, if you associate with other like minded people who are ambitious, goal oriented, and successful–chances are that you also possess these qualities. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if you choose friends who lack direction in life, have substance abuse issues, and other overall negative qualities, then people will tend to associate that you are the same way.
It is for this reason that I cannot emphasize enough the importance of good CHARACTER when choosing your friends. Aside from their personal qualities to describe their character, their character also describes how they treat you and others which also should be taken into consideration. Does this person support you and accept you for who you are? Do you trust this person? Is this person reliable if you needed a favor? How does this person treat their own family? These are just a handful of questions to ask yourself when you examine character. Unlike family, when it comes to friends, we have the power to choose who we want to associate with so always select wisely–friends who possess good character along with those who add a positive impact on your life. Lastly, always choose people who choose you—they equally love, support, and are there for you when you need them most. 🙂
I was reading a book where I came across a quote that I had never seen before:
I thought to myself, this is incredibly accurate and true. When someone tells you that you cannot do something or something is out of your reach, don’t buy into this negativity! Why are you letting someone underestimate your abilities and self worth? Let people think what they want but you do what you want and prove them otherwise but most importantly prove it to yourself.
I always remind people that for every person who says no, trust me, there are PLENTY of people who will say yes. This applies to entering new relationships, finding a job, etc. Even if you went through a series of rejections, let that serve as a way to motivate you to rise above and elevate yourself to a higher level. Don’t ever let a “no” leave yourself feeling defeated and focus on everything that you CAN do because you can do it all (and much more)! 🙂
I was watching the news the other day where I learned that Brooke Baldwin is leaving CNN in which I strolled onto her Instagram (I wanted to send her some well wishes) and found her wearing a sweatshirt that read, “Fantastic and Only Improving.” She explained that whenever she asked her security guard Ant Diggity how his day was, he would always respond with that exact phrase. I loved it so much that I just had to share it with my readers! 🙂
What I like most about it is that it is declaring a firm positive state of mind of being fantastic (not just your typical, “good” or “okay” response). Then it is followed up by, only improving. This is really the key to living a fulfilling life full of abundance and leading to a path of growth, success, and happiness–which is by focusing on making self improvements and bettering yourself on a regular basis! No one is born perfect but at the very least, we can always strive for the very best things in life and make a commitment to be a better person each and every day.
So the next time someone asks you, “How are you doing?” Just look the person straight in the eye and reply with conviction, “Fantastic and only improving.” 😉
[On a final note, I am snowed in today in NJ and was thinking about taking a nap; however, after writing this post, I am actually self motivated to do more productive things instead. It goes to show that you can stay motivated with the right mindset].
I randomly stumbled across this quote for the first time yesterday although I am sure many people are familiar with it. I googled it to find that Abraham Lincoln said it: “The best way to predict your future is to create it.“ Now I know that many can counter argue that you cannot really predict the future (Ex: Who knew we would be faced with a global pandemic?); however, that is not the point. What it truly means is that we can make the best everyday decisions for ourselves to create the very best outcome for our lives.Although there is no crystal ball to predict the future, we can still take the right action steps to create a brighter future. It is never too late to start either so if you find that you have made some mistakes or have not done the best job planning ahead, you can always start today.
In celebration of Thanksgiving, I thought it would be best to keep up the theme of gratitude for the day although it is important that it is practiced on a daily basis. I found some great quotes to share that will keep your spirits up and help your mind stay focused on gratitude because we all know that gratitude is the right attitude! 😉
“Gratitude can turn a meal into a feast.” – Melody Beattie
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” – Eckhart Tolle
“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is to not utter the words, but to live by them.” – John F. Kennedy
“The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception to such an extent that it changes the world you see.” – Robert Holden
“The more thankful I became, the more my bounty increased. That’s because – for sure – what you focus on expands. When you focus on the goodness in your life, your life expands.” – Oprah Winfrey
[Happy Thanksgiving! Just a quick end note to thank everyone for reading my blog! I appreciate all of my readers and getting the opportunity to share my positivity with you all!]
During my teenage years, one of my favorite movies was, Can’t Hardly Wait. It was your typical late 90s teenage romantic comedy that included an all star cast–some who were just starting off their careers and most of the movie took place at a graduation party. It is hard to believe that anything deeply profound could ever rise upon the surface from a movie of this nature; however, there was a quote from the movie that stuck with me from the first time I saw the movie and when I think about it now, it still applies.
In my high school yearbook where I had the opportunity to utilize this space with a short message on the same page as my senior photo, I actually included this quote within my caption because it was something that I believed in and held meaning.
“There is fate, but it only takes you so far, because once you’re there it’s up to you to make it happen.”
Can’t Hardly Wait
I do believe fate exists and that everything in our lifetimes happens for a reason. However, I do also very much believe that we have control of our fate and our destiny. Every little thought, decision, and move we make guides our fate. Ultimately, it is up to us to make it happen. We all have the power to do that in which it starts with our minds and then is executed by our actions.
In memory of Ruth Bader Ginsburg, the Supreme Court Justice and women’s right activist known as the “Notorious RBG,” I thought it would be best to share some of her famous quotes which capture the essence of who she was along with ones I believe can add value to people’s lives including my own.
“Fight for the things that you care about, but do it in a way that will lead others to join you.”
“My mother told me to be a lady. And for her, that meant be your own person, be independent.”
“Reacting in anger or annoyance will not advance one’s ability to persuade.”
“You can’t have it all, all at once. Who—man or woman—has it all, all at once? Over my lifespan I think I have had it all. But in different periods of time things were rough. And if you have a caring life partner, you help the other person when that person needs it.”
“If you are going to be a lawyer and just practice your profession, you have a skill—very much like a plumber. But if you want to be a true professional, you will do something outside yourself… something that makes life a little better for people less fortunate than you.”