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Money Doesn’t Buy Love and Here’s Why

People have the misconception that money buys love. In certain scenarios, maybe it does but over time, it is human nature for people to take that for granted meaning that if there is not a genuine love there, the money in itself cannot sustain the relationship in the long run. That is why it is important to not revolve your dating decisions strictly around money. Yes, it is nice to show your generosity by spending money on your significant other but there are plenty of other gestures that can show that you love the person. No one should ever feel obligated to buy their partner extravagant gifts and treat them to fancy experiences all the time in order to keep this person in their life. Unfortunately, there are many users out there who will stay in a relationship for the wrong reasons and take advantage of someone who spends a lot of money on them. Some people will proactively only date people who are very wealthy or who spoil them with lavish gifts. The question is, would the person still have an interest in this same person if they didn’t have as much money and/or did not spend it on them? If the answer is no, then it goes to show that money does not buy love.

Dating someone for their wealth is a superficial reason to stay with someone. If you genuinely connect with the person and they happen to have money, that is okay but do not ever let that be the driving factor as to why you choose to date someone. Remember that money comes and goes so while some might have a lot of money today, that does not always guarantee that they will have a substantial amount in their future. Also keep in mind that some people might not be at the financial peak of their lives at the time that you meet them so it is not fair to judge this person when this could change over time.

If people took the time to build their own individual wealth and created a successful financial path for themselves, then there would be no need to rely on a partner for their financial resources. This should be the ultimate goal so that one can be financially independent with or without a partner and when the time comes to build a serious long term relationship, you have something to bring to the table as opposed to relying on the other person to have to provide everything financially. A healthy partnership should be a good balance of give and take. It should not be a one sided relationship as that can deteriorate more easily over time.

Success Starts With Your MINDSET – So Make It a Strong and Positive One

While success can look very different from one person to another and an individual’s level of success can be a combination of various contributing factors–there is no denying that one of the most important aspects of elevating success stems from a person’s MINDSET. Your mindset guides your beliefs, work ethic, discipline, your life’s path, and so much more. If your mindset determines that you are destined for success, then you are already on a good path to getting there. If you do not believe that you are capable or deserving of a great life full of abundance and success, then unfortunately, you are less likely to attract that into your life.

Remember that everything starts with your mind. That is why it is up to you to consciously generate positive thoughts and to build a strong mindset that propels you to accomplish everything that you want to accomplish in your lifetime. It is natural to feel down at times and/or to experience fear but never let the negativity overthrow your mindset. If you personally do not believe in your own success, that is a setback that you need to work on overcoming. It is important to recognize this so that there is room for spiritual growth and to allow for you to make the internal changes that are needed in developing a better mindset.

At the end of the day, success starts with YOU and how you THINK! 😉

The More You Think of Something – The More Likely It Will Happen

When it comes to manifestation, it is important to stay focused on your desires and goals because without a doubt–the more you think about something, the higher chance it has of coming into fruition. The reason being as I say time and time again is that our thoughts become things. That is also why there is the expression, “out of sight, out of mind” which is often very true. When you do not think about something all too often, the less likely it will happen because it is not in the forefront of your mind. That is why it is crucial to keep your desires and goals on your mind on a daily basis. The more you think about something, this also deepens the depth of your desires to the point where you want them even more meaning that you will be more motivated to take action and figure out how to make these things all happen. While I believe that The Universe is abundant and giving, that does not mean that it grants people’s wishes simply by thinking about them! It takes MORE than just thinking about them but at least if you keep your desires and goals within your dominant thoughts, you are on the right path of manifestation.

Where people tend to go wrong with this step is that often people have inner setbacks, fears, insecurities, and/or negative thoughts which prevent the manifestation process from ever reaching the desired outcome. One might have the idea, “I really want to lose 10 lbs” followed by the thought, “I’ll never be as skinny as I was 10 years ago.” The problem with this thought process is that while the desire is there–it is backed up with a NEGATIVE and definitive statement which is already stating that this goal is not attainable. Our perception becomes our reality which is why it is essential to work on creating a positive perception. If people replaced their negativity with positivity, they would magnetize and attract even more positive things in life–sometimes without even asking for them!

The next time you set a goal, aside from thinking about it often, do not forget to think about it being ACHIEVABLE and within your reach! In your mind, shift your mindset that everything is in your possession and think about all the positive feelings associated with these achievements.

Have a Great Week! :)

I have been super busier than usual this summer and quite honestly, I couldn’t find the time to write a real post this week but I’ll be back soon and until then, I am just wishing everyone a great week! 🙂

A quick look at July 4th in NYC this year!

J.Lo – “I’m Just Getting Started” – Why Aging Should Never Be an Excuse or Setback

Last week at the IHeartRadio Music Awards, Jennifer Lopez was awarded the 2022 Icon Award at the age of 52 years old. As she graciously accepted the award, she stated, “Let me tell you something else, I’m just getting started.” While many won’t have a career as remarkable as J.Lo, that is not the point. It is her mindset that is the takeaway and something that anyone can adapt besides her. She essentially is saying that this is only the beginning of many more achievements and things are going to keep getting better–(aka an abundance mindset). It is clear that she does not view age as a setback and embraces it knowing that she has even more to accomplish. This is not only a positive outlook to have but also an empowering way to look at life.

Many seem to associate aging or getting older as a bad thing and that age dictates our lives in a very negative way. Why does it have to be that way though? Even if that is what someone else might think or what society might portray, who says that you have to think that way? People too often use aging as an excuse as to why they let themselves go or that their social lives are not as exciting as in their youth or that things essentially go downhill over time. Again, it does not have to be this way unless you choose for it to be this way. If anything, I think that people need to possess the opposite mindset. With age, there are many spiritual gifts added to enhance your life including more life experiences, success, wealth, happiness, security, and much more. Age might bring upon more responsibilities such as raising a family or added job roles within a career; however, this can be expected and it is always better to be progressing in life than staying stagnate where there is little to no change.

Each year of life is a blessing and should be seen as an opportunity to expand life and make it an amazing one. People should not be stating that they are “too old” to do anything or whenever a birthday passes by. It is also important to keep in mind that age is just a number and certain life experiences and milestones that you are striving for might come sooner than expected or perhaps arrive later in life which is okay because everybody’s life path is different. Don’t ever let age be seen as a setback or used as an excuse as to why your life is not a spectacular one. Getting older should never serve as a roadblock against success, love, or happiness. As far as I am concerned, life should only get better with age and it is apparent that J.Lo feels the same way! 😉

How to Be Happy in Any Relationship

I have written many blogs on the subject of being single and happy along with how it can very well be a good thing; however, I have not really taken the time to write about ways to be remain happy when you are in a relationship. So I will take a moment to reflect and delve into that subject matter because it is just as important to find happiness while you are in a relationship (whether it be a casual relationship or a permanent one) as it is to be happy when you are single.

Find the Right Partner – This is the most essential component of finding happiness in any relationship is to actually find a partner whom you are compatible with and that you overall get along with. The more similar you are with your partner and the more you both see eye-to-eye on most important areas in life, the less likely that there are going to be arguments or any built up tension between each other.

Establish Respect and Healthy Boundaries – It is extremely important with any relationship, that there is mutual respect for one another along with healthy boundaries to be in place which should be established at the very early stages of any relationship to ensure that both people are on the same page. This is not only the foundation of a happy relationship but also a very healthy one.

Work Together – It is very easy in a relationship to attack your partner or to take a single minded approach whenever a problem arrives. Nothing really gets accomplished when two people work against each other which is why you need to make it a point to understand each other’s point of view and to always work together. Keep in mind that it is expected that compromises and sacrifices are going to be needed for promoting togetherness and the greater good of the relationship. Two people will feel better knowing that the end goal is to work towards coming together as one as opposed to fighting with each other which causes separation, resentment, and typically no real solution.

Focus on the Positive Without Expecting Perfection – Realistically, there is no such thing as a “perfect” partner in which you will love every single quality about the person; however, I do very much believe that you can find what you define as your perfect match where your partner possesses many desirable qualities that you are attracted to. That is why you always should fixate on the positive qualities of the person you choose to be with. If you focus on their best qualities, then there is a higher chance that you will naturally feel happier being with this person. If you find that their bad qualities outweigh the good, then this might be a good time to break off the relationship and consider finding a new partner altogether.

Love Yourself Above Anything Else – This might come across as an oxymoron and you might be thinking, “So you’re telling me to love myself above anything else in order to be happy in a relationship? How do I do both at the same time?” What I really am pointing out is the importance of SELF LOVE. If this is something that you recognize that you need to work on, it is wise to work on increasing self love before getting into a serious relationship. Remember that when you love yourself, you will always find happiness from within regardless of your relationship status. Self love can also serve as a spiritual tool that can help you make your very best dating decisions in your life and guide you towards finding your true match. Think about it, when you love yourself above anything else, it is much easier to weed out the toxic people who only bring your life down and as a result, only pursue a relationship that is going to bring you unlimited happiness throughout your lifetime.

Is It Okay to Ask Your Partner to Live a Healthier Lifestyle or to Better Manage Their Weight?

Not everyone has high health standards and the way in which one chooses to live life can be radically different from individual to individual. It is quite common to see two people in a relationship that might have the intention to stay healthy and fit but over time, one or both might start to let themselves go due to lack of motivation, a busy work schedule, stress, or simply just out of the comfort of being in a steady relationship. Whatever the reason may be, you have to remember that it is really up to the other individual to want to stay healthy more so than what their partner says. So keep in mind, even if you want a loved one to change, if the other person is content with their current health habits or lack there of, there never will be a change. So knowing this, is it worth asking your partner to live a healthier lifestyle or to do something about their weight?

I think the subject of weight in general is an extremely touchy subject. People tend to be concerned with either being too overweight or being too underweight. While most are probably more concerned if their partner gains excessive weight, there is also the opposite spectrum where someone is losing too much weight such as an eating disorder which is just as detrimental as being overweight. The best thing to do is to positively encourage your partner to make better health choices. If you approach your partner in a loving and supportive way, then there is a much higher chance that the person will at least be receptive to making a change. If you were to attack your partner and tell them that they have a weight problem, this is not going to be very successful because putting anyone down in a negative tone is not really going to accomplish anything and could also potentially cause a rift on your overall relationship. In addition, it is going to make the person feel worse about themselves and this might have the opposite effect where they feel hopeless and the problem gets even worse.

Besides providing support to your partner, another good way to gently encourage your partner to make healthier choices is to lead by example. If you can demonstrate that you are conscientious about your diet and exercise habits, then this gives the other person the opportunity to follow your lead. If you can also make being healthy and fit a priority to focus on together, then this also makes it easier for the other person to adapt. This can mean food shopping together and cooking nutritious meals together. Another idea is to schedule working out on the same days so that you can create quality time together while being fit at the same time.

At the end of the day, people are going to make their own personal choices in life and this applies to diet and exercise as well. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but it is up to the horse to want to drink it. If you are going to go out of your way to try to get your partner to adjust their health habits or to make any positive change, remember that a loving and supportive approach is the way to go.