Don’t Ever Become a Beggar Within Your Dating Life

There might be many instances in life where the expression, “Beggars can’t be choosers” applies but your dating life should never be one of them. People make excuses as to why they should settle or just date someone for the sake of having someone. I don’t care if you just got out of a relationship or marriage because failed relationships do not define you–finding love again can still be within your future. I don’t care how old you are because no one has an expiration date or a deadline as to when they find the love of their life. I don’t care if you’re currently unemployed, out of shape, have kids from a previous relationship, etc. Whatever the excuse is, it is time to throw them out the window because they are simply just excuses and do not have to stand in the way of you finding your very best relationship–whether that be with self (as there is nothing wrong with being single) or with a romantic partner.

It blows my mind when people apply these limitations because the result often leads to one settling for an undesirable relationship due to the belief that there are not enough options or a better suited option. Again, this is a scarcity mindset which prevents the creation of abundance in life. If you truly believe your options are limited, then guess what? Yeah, they unfortunately will stay limited because your inner most thoughts determine your reality.

In my opinion, choosing a life partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make in life and not one you should ever take lightly. No matter what your current circumstance is, you should never feel pressured to settle or go through the motions of staying in a long term relationship if you do not feel it is the right fit. You need to set the bar high and keep that bar high because you are deserving to be with someone who you choose to be with and in return this person chooses you back. Remember, it has to go both ways because it is a lost cause if you choose someone who doesn’t value you in the same exact way.

I remember once hearing on a television show many years ago that you should be with someone in which you feel like you hit the lottery. In other words, you want to be with someone who makes you feel incredibly lucky to have in your life. The only difference is, winning the lottery is based on luck whereas with finding love, you essentially CHOOSE your luck which is why you need to be a CHOOSER in your dating life, not a beggar who is willing to take any person who comes their way. True love is always worth the wait so remember to choose very wisely! ❤

4 thoughts on “Don’t Ever Become a Beggar Within Your Dating Life

  1. EminAdaily

    “No one has an expiration date or a deadline as to when they find the love of their life”, which is completely true. I don’t know where the idea that passing a certain age limits a person’s chances of finding true love came from but I think it’s a very self degrading idea. Especially for women because we then start to think we are no longer as desirable as we used to be cos we’ve passed a certain age. And then end up getting pressured to choose whoever is available even if we know the person is wrong for us. At the end of the day though, the power to create the type of life we want lies in our hands and not up to luck.

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    1. Make Up the Life You Love Post author

      Wow, thank you so much for your valuable comment and taking the time to read my blog! This is especially true for women, I agree which is why I feel empowered to write about this because many women feel so defeated if they don’t find “the one” by a certain age which is so far from the truth! I notice people start to settle as they get older and then end up more miserable later. It is so worth it to hold out for the right one! ❤

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  2. maryamshehu

    This is so inspiring. It takes great effort from two people to make a relationship work. That is why no matter what, we should take our time to choose someone who loves us just as much as we love them or even more.

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