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Find Meaningfulness in Your Life and You Will Always Find Happiness

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I was reflecting on my life very much at the start of the new year and while I know I live a blessed life, I also know that I live an extremely happy and fulfilling one as well. People who know me personally know that I am not someone who gets sad easily and depression is definitely not something I can say I have truly ever experienced on a deep level. Of course there are days that bring its challenges but in the grand scheme of things, I love the life I am creating everyday and genuinely am a happy individual. Am I just born this way or am I doing something differently? Can others learn to live happier lives themselves?

My biggest advice is simple and it is a general principle that I have applied throughout my entire lifetime, both on a conscious and subconscious level: Find meaningfulness in your life and you will always find happiness. It is important to find meaning in all areas of your life whether it be within your profession, relationships, friendships, hobbies, etc. By finding meaning, I mean actually have a genuine connection and affinity towards everything you pursue. Don’t waste your time working for a company that you hate and that brings you down. Don’t invest your time in meaningless relationships that don’t have a significant impact on your heart. Don’t go through the motions of life because you feel you are “supposed to do something” or because “everyone is doing it.” You need to carve your own path and strive to find meaning behind everything that you do and happiness will always follow.

Dating Advice That No One Wants to Hear but It’s True

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I have been trying to think of a good list of dating advice that can literally apply to anyone and everyone. I thought of a short list of dating principles that I recognize might be common sense but dating advice that people don’t always follow in which it is important to share it. I really strive to help people make the very best choices in their personal lives so hopefully these tips are helpful! ❤

Not Everyone Is Going to Like You – Accept It and Move On – This is definitely one of the biggest reality checks that many people fail to follow and understand. It is very common to like someone who does not have the same feelings in return. The best thing to do is to move on and find an equal match where there is a mutual attraction on both ends. However, unfortunately people still stick around in hopes that the other person will start to develop feelings over time or they simply invest way too much of their time, resources, and both their emotional and physical energy into this person when the signs were clear from the start that nothing meaningful was ever going to transpire. I know for many, this can be a tough situation to deal with and can easily bruise the ego. There good thing is, there are literally billions of people in this world and I can assure you that you can actually find someone who values you just as much as you value them in return. So stop wasting your time on the people who don’t like you and find someone who not only likes you but adores you! (Again, with so many people who exist in this Universe, I am pretty sure that this person exists–trust me on this one)! 😉

Don’t Be So Outcome Dependent – Especially When You First Meet Someone – People tend to have way too many expectations when they are out in the dating world and as a result, end up terribly disappointed. Now I am not saying to not have high standards because of course you should set the bar high when you are looking for a life partner. What I am referring to are relationship expectations and imposing a dating agenda when you do not even know the person all too well or perhaps just met them. For example, women tend to discuss wanting a marriage and children after the first date or just a few dates. There is nothing wrong with wanting to manifest these specific things but to mention this to someone without establishing a deep connection first is incredibly premature and unnecessary. The same goes with men who go on dates and they might have a set number of dates in their minds that they are willing to go on before the woman is intimate with them. This again is the wrong approach. It is way better to have a go with the flow mentality and see where things go as opposed to assigning this dating agenda because every dating scenario is situational and you might not even like the person all too much to begin with. That is why it is important to take the time that is needed to build that spiritual connection first and establish that you both want a relationship before expecting intimacy, marriage, etc. You have to let things happen as it is supposed to play out and be patient with the process knowing that the outcome you are looking for is on its way. This is why there is no need to rush it or impose it on anyone because you will meet the right person when you are destined to do so!

Learn to Love Your Life With or Without Someone – I find that there are a lot of people in this world who can’t handle being single and literally are not happy unless they are in a relationship. To me, the underlying issue with this is that these are people who feel empty inside because they do not love their life and/or feel good enough so they rely on others to provide them with love, happiness, and validation in order to feel good about self. Think about it, if someone is happy with their own life, they can navigate and enjoy it without the help of others. This is a very good place to be in because this means that you can function independently and if you happen to meet someone whom you choose to develop a serious relationship with, it is an added bonus to your life but not a necessity because you already love your life!

“New Year – Same Me” – Not a Bad Mindset to Have And Here’s Why

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It is still the first week in January within the new year and although I am sure you were expecting me to preach to all of you about how this is going to be your best year yet and how we need to start tracking our goals immediately–I actually have a totally different outlook when it comes to new year’s resolutions. It is quite common nowadays to hear the saying, “New year, same me” and I genuinely love that expression. The reason being that, even though it is a new year, guess what? I am still the same amazing individual I was a year ago and years prior who is continuing to conquer the world and crush my goals, one day at a time (*thank you very much*). While yes, I do think it is a good idea at the beginning of the new year for everyone to reassess life and determine what goals we want to achieve, the truth of the matter is–we should be doing this everyday regardless of what time of year it is. Life is all about making the right choices and I can honestly say that I CHOOSE to do this on a daily basis in terms of wanting to make life improvements and striving to live my very best life. The great news is, you too can make this same choice as well–and you absolutely should!

[On a final note as some people might need to hear this. Don’t forget how fabulous you already are today and that your life is only going to get better moving forward. I don’t care about what happened in your past–you need to keep your focus on your future. You are destined to receive life’s greatest gifts and in order to do so, you need to BELIEVE in what you deserve and from there, take the ACTION that is needed to make it all happen].

Cheers to 2022 everyone and so much more… 😉

First Blog of 2022 – What Do You Want to Read About This Year?

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I am back from my blog vacation and wanted to delve back into blogging again in the new year. So on that note, welcome to my first blog of the new year and happy 2022! 🙂 I hope that everyone had a wonderful new year’s and if that meant hanging at home in pajamas, I am with you on that as I actually did the same thing–hey, there is nothing wrong with being comfortable and cozy! This is actually going to be a quick post because I want to start working on some real blog content soon.

For those of you who wonder where I get my ideas for this blog, the content can vary based upon things that I think about or even current events. In addition, I do like to write about what my readers enjoy reading most. If I receive a blog request, I do try to address it if I have an opinion on the subject matter–which often times I do. For example, I just reconnected with a friend (hi Sheryl if you are reading right now) and she asked if I could write more about dating topics which I will definitely address more as I actually love to write about this subject matter. This blog initially was going to be strictly about relationships and manifesting love; however, I did not want to limit myself to only writing about this topic as there are plenty of areas within self improvement that are unrelated to love.

So if anyone wants to share with me what they enjoy reading most, you can always reach out to me directly and I will be receptive to them and try to cover them at some point within my blog! As always, thanks for reading and allowing myself to influence others to live their very best lives, promote positivity, and to express my innermost thoughts with a wider audience. ❤

Failed Relationships Don’t Make You A Failure

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With the end of any relationship, there can be a mix of emotions ranging from deep sadness to loneliness to emotional grief. No matter who initiated the breakup, I would say that most people usually feel down afterwards and that it is common for people to feel like a failure after any serious relationship or marriage ends. Although many people go into a relationship with their best intentions and the hopes for a long term future, it is inevitable that not all relationships are built to last forever and guess what–that’s OKAY!!! It is okay to break up a relationship if there wasn’t enough compatibility or if you grew apart or if you found yourself extremely unhappy with your partner. Whatever the case may be or whatever caused the relationship to end, it is important to remember that a failed relationship does not define you and that you should never feel like a failure because of it. It is up to you to keep your mind strong and let the time that is needed to heal so you can move on. By move on, that can mean different things to different people. For some, that might mean working on self and living an independent life. For others, that could mean finding the right life partner or companion at a later time in life. Everyone’s life journey is different and hence navigating life after a breakup is going to vary depending on one’s personal situation.

While coping with the breakup, rather than seeing it as wasted time or feeling like a failure, you have to look at the important life lessons you gained from it and utilize these lessons to shape you for a better future. From a spiritual standpoint, don’t question why you went through what you went through. Instead, recognize that the outcome all happened for a reason and that it ultimately had to happen to lead to the greater good of your life–which you have not even experienced yet. I truly believe that you have to go through some hardships at times to set yourself up for a better path. This is a gentle reminder that life cannot only consist of rainbows and happiness at all times. We all need to “fail” in order to succeed and this same basic principle applies to your personal relationships. While some relationships were destined to end, that doesn’t mean that you should give up on dating altogether or that you will continue to attract dead end relationships. Your mindset just needs to shift into a more positive one along with trusting that you will be okay and without a hint of doubt know that better things are on the horizon. ❤

Happy Thanksgiving! – A Time of Gratitude

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Today is Thanksgiving and I did not plan on writing much because I wanted to enjoy the day with family and loved ones but I also did not want the day to go by without putting out a warm holiday greeting. If you celebrate, I hope you find a way to cherish this time as a time of gratitude. Be thankful for the people you have in your life. Be thankful for everything you have right now. Ultimately, be thankful today but everyday because there is always something to be grateful for!

Also a huge thank you to those who take the time to visit my blog or choose to subscribe and follow my posts. Blogging is a wonderful hobby but also a great platform to express my thoughts within this modern digital world we live in and to connect with others! It is a very cool extension of my life and I am grateful to have a place where I can promote positivity and influence others to live their very best lives! 🙂 Thank you everyone for reading, I genuinely appreciate the love and support–you all are wonderful and mean the world to me! ❤

Achieve a Goal? – Just When You Think You’re Done, You Have Just Begun

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Throughout life, everyone should make it a point to set personal goals for themselves. After completing a goal, you might find a way to celebrate your achievements or feel an inner sense of personal fulfillment as you should. However, from there it is important to expand on your goals and/or to create new ones in order to keep progressing in life. That is why as the title states, “just when you think you’re done, you have just begun.” In other words, just when you think, “mission accomplished,” it is actually just the beginning because there is still so much to achieve within one’s lifetime!

Similar to playing a video game, we live our lives navigating from one level to the next. No one wants to stay on the same level forever as staying stagnant can get very boring. At the same time, it is okay if certain levels take longer to master than others because if you are blazing through too quickly, that could mean that you are not challenging yourself enough to begin with. It is important to take the time to really examine where you are right now and to more thoroughly think about what the next level or goal you are looking to achieve means to you. From there, it is up to you to take the action needed to fulfill your goals and from there plan on striving for even more. Remember that abundance attracts even more abundance which is why it is essential to always be aspiring to acquire the most out of life!

The Difference Between Motivation and Commitment – (What’s More Important?)

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I would agree that motivation is an important factor when determining the height of success but one cannot rely strictly on motivation alone. The reason being is that motivation is very much based upon your emotional state and feelings. Although I believe that some people are naturally born with more motivation than others or were pushed to become motivated at a young age, the reality is that some days one is going to feel motivated while other days motivation might be nonexistent. Most of the time, I might be a highly motivated individual but that’s not to say I feel that way every single day. Motivation might not always be stable but something that is going to be more reliable is your ability to make commitments to yourself and the goals that you want to achieve in life.

A commitment is more firm and definitive than motivation is. If you choose to make a commitment towards anything that you are passionate about, you are on the right path to success because you set a defined intention and made a decision in regards to your desired outcome of life. It is for this reason why it is important to think about what you want most and from there, make a commitment to yourself that this is the way in which you want to live your life. This is why vision boards and writing down concrete goals on index cards are extremely effective tools because they serve as a visual road map of your intent along with demonstrating your level of commitment towards these goals. While to some, this practice might seem like a waste of time or be totally bogus or futile, there are people on the other side of the spectrum who are truly devoted and committed enough to want to create these things. Why? It actually works! 😉

“Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain With You”

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I recently came across this quote, “Follow your heart but take your brain with you.” This then provoked me to google where it came from and it was said by a famous psychotherapist named Alfred Adler. People always emphasize the cliche “to follow your heart” which encourages one to listen their intuition and emotions. I definitely believe it is important to listen to what your intuition is telling you because it tends to be very accurate; however, I do agree with the later part of the quote which is often overlooked: But take your brain with you.

When making decisions, if you rely mostly on your emotions, I think that’s where practicality and rationality easily can go out the window. That is why it is essential to think with your head as well (aka by “taking your brain with you”) because emotions simply are not as logical. I think the biggest mistakes are made when people rely too heavily on their heart in guiding them to find love. Emotions can easily get in the way and truly lead you in the wrong direction. A person might make you feel good but sometimes there is zero compatibility. That’s where you need to listen to your head as well to make that assessment and not let strong emotions blind you into loving someone that is far from being the right match for you.

It is most beneficial to use a combination of both your head and your heart in all areas of your life. Some people are definitely built to use one more than the other but with mindfulness, you can teach yourself to use your less dominant function more often. If you find that it is hard to rely on yourself to see things from a more rational perspective or on the other hand with more of your emotional side, then it is helpful to talk to someone who utilizes your opposite function to help you see things from the opposite point of view. Sometimes you need others’ insight to give you the clarity that’s needed to make better decisions. Remember that it is okay to be lead by your heart more but to not forget to think about things with your head as well because a little balance of both can really go a long way and often is the key to everything.

Why Are People Quitting Their Jobs at Record High Numbers?

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There is no denying that the ongoing pandemic has impacted many people one way or another–both for the good and the bad. One area that has heavily been impacted is one’s employment status. In the very beginning, many people found themselves without a job and might have had to collect unemployment for the very first time in their lives. Many were also furloughed for extended periods of time but eventually were able to be brought back to work. Depending on the industry, there were also people who have been working from home and haven’t set foot into an office since or might be easing back into working in person again just a few days a week. What many would not have anticipated is that while things are slowly getting back to some sort of new normalcy, many people (Americans in particular) are quitting their jobs altogether. I recently had read a statistic that 4.3 million Americans had quit their jobs this past August 2021 which is approximately 3% of the American workforce. While that might not seem too high, it is still alarming considering that this seems to be the new trend and more people are choosing to leave their jobs in its entirety.

One initial factor that comes to mind as to why this is happening could be the vaccine mandate which has put people in a position where they are forced to quit their jobs due to a lack of personal choice. However, surprisingly, this only accounts for a very small percentage of people who have left their jobs. Another thought might be that the generous unemployment benefits that were given out during the pandemic have also made it very easy for people to essentially get paid to stay home as opposed to going back to work. However, these extended pandemic unemployment assistance (PUA) benefits had been terminated in certain states a long time ago or had just ended this past September which means that people are no longer collecting large sums of money from the government anymore. So why are people still choosing to not go back to work?

During these times of uncertainty, I think people have been reflecting on their lives on a much deeper level and have really taken the time to examine what brings personal fulfillment. For many, work has consumed a good majority of life which can leave people to feel burnt out over extended periods of time to the point where people need to find a way to catch a break and there seems to be no better time than right now. I have written in the past about how having a lot of money might seem great but when you don’t have the free time to enjoy life, money does not hold as much value as TIME in my opinion. As I have also recently wrote about, you can always make money but you cannot always make up for lost time–as we all know how fast life passes us by.

Quality of life is essential yet so many people [unfortunately] let their jobs rob them away of this basic need and key to happiness. I think people are realizing now more than ever that quality of life is simply more important than work. While we need a stable job for basic survival, sometimes it just is not worth it if that means losing sleep, added amounts of stress, lack of flexibility, lack of family time, feeling unappreciated, menial wages, and so many other drawbacks. After awhile, enough is enough already.

If people find themselves reaching that breaking point, then yes–it’s time to quit and press the restart button. By restart, I simply mean to consider pursuing a new career path that will ensure intrinsic satisfaction and be in alignment with one’s life purpose. Perhaps restart could mean leaving the work force for an extended period of time to enjoy a hobby, spend quality time with family, or to travel the world. Everyone’s situation is different but at the end of the day, no one should be settling on a miserable work life. It is much better to look into starting over or to take a well deserved break. I think that the pandemic along with the current statistics are consistently showing that more people are coming to this realization and need to figure out a new game plan for life which ultimately is a positive thing.