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Stop Blaming Yourself For Your Failures – Do These Things Instead

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Experiencing failure is an inevitable experience in life and although it is associated with frustration, sadness, and other negative feelings–there are ways to fail and still persevere. It is very natural to want to blame yourself for your failures but that can leave you feeling very upset and prevent you from recovering. First and foremost, you need to walk away from any failure with a positive attitude. You need to detach yourself from any negativity and find ways to move forward with your life. This can be a very good time for self reflection where you do not dwell so much on the failure itself but you find ways to look past it. During this time, you should also think about ways of improving the outcome in the future and to motivate yourself to try again and/or find better solutions. While you might go through moments where you feel defeated, it is essential that you do not let negativity steer you towards giving up or feeling bad about yourself. When you fall, you need to get yourself right back up and keep it moving. The same goes with when you fail–you need to just get back on track with your life and make some positive strides in the right direction.

While many of us strive for perfection, you need to recognize that life is not meant to be perfect at all times. If you never came across failures in life, there would be no room for spiritual growth. It is often during the dark times and the times that you fail that you are actually setting yourself up towards success in your future. You might not see it at the present moment but it all ends up making sense later. That is why you need to trust the Universe, even when you come across some failures along the way. You need to take these failures as life lessons and LEARN from them. That is the positive takeaway from any failure is to look at it as an opportunity to gain wisdom and pick up some valuable spiritual lessons along the way.

If you are still having a tough time mentally with whatever failure that you are going through, take this time not only for yourself but do not be afraid to seek out help and to reach out to those who care about you. It can be extremely helpful to talk to other people who have gone through similar experiences or to just express your feelings to someone. Some people like to bottle everything inside but it can actually be more beneficial to express yourself to others. You would be amazed at the amount of emotional support you would receive simply by speaking up and talking to a professional or to someone you know. For me personally, I cannot thank the supportive people around me enough for listening and empathizing with me when I needed it most. That is why it is important to surround yourself with a positive support system and to embrace seeking their advice during those times where you could use the extra emotional support.

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Relationships and Timelines – My Honest Thoughts

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I want to start off with a quote that I recently stumbled upon:

“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. “— Nora Ephron

I have always been the type of person to believe that when you find the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with, the relationship process will organically move into that direction in a rather smooth and healthy time frame. I never envisioned myself in a five plus year long relationship with someone for the sake of being in a long term relationship with someone that would not eventually lead to marriage. I never believed in having to force guys to commit to me or to ever be in a position where it would be a struggle to build a future with someone who cared for me as much as I cared for them. Trust me when I tell you–when you find the right person, everything will magically fall into place. You are not going to need to wait a lifetime for this person to want to start their lives with you because as the quote states, this person already cannot wait to start their future with you.

Think about it: When you cherish and love something, you want that thing as much as possible. You are not going to push it away or have to think about whether or not you want more of it. This same basic principle also applies to people yet so many people fail to recognize this. Why would you ever want to be with someone who needed time to determine if they want something serious with you or request a break from you when things get tough? When you LOVE someone (and more importantly, vice versa), you will instinctively do whatever it takes to be with that person. You will shift your schedule to make quality time for this person. You will make personal sacrifices for the greater good of your future. It also will come naturally to think about bringing both your worlds together and to create a life TOGETHER. As I always like to point out, it has to be BOTH ways. As much as you love this person, this person also needs to be reciprocating the love and be putting in just as much effort into your relationship as you are. Please do not settle for anything less than that or for a one sided relationship where you need to do everything all the time in order for the relationship to last.

If you are in a relationship with someone who you love but there is no clarification or security in where your future is going, never be afraid to walk away. You need to believe that your soulmate who you are longing to manifest will come quite effortlessly. You aren’t going to need to ask your partner questions like, “Where is this going?” or “Do you see me in your future?” The right person will not only find ways to assure you that there is a future but already be taking the action steps to shift your lives together. It is also wise to be extra cautious because it is very easy for someone to promise you a future with their words but not with their actions just to keep you around. If you sense that this could be the case, then you need to find a way to let go of this relationship despite how attached you might feel at the present moment. You need to look many steps ahead into your life in knowing that the right person will not only not walk away but also not let you walk away from them. The best way to invest into your future is to make the right decisions today despite how hard they can be. Never lose sight of what you are looking for along with knowing your value. These two principles will make it much easier for you to navigate your relationships and get closer to finding your soulmate.

While Communication Is One of Many Keys of a Successful Relationship — So Is Learning to UNDERSTAND

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There is no denying that communicating with your partner is important and can ensure a healthy and long lasting relationship. However, sometimes people rely too much on communication but forget to actually take the time to listen and understand. While communication is a great thing, you can have two people expressing themselves to one another but failing to UNDERSTAND what is being said to one another. It is just as essential to try to empathize and understand as it is to communicate. If more people took the time to do this, there would be less conflicts, miscommunications, and even breakups. When you love someone unconditionally, you will not only learn the importance of great communication but also learn why understanding your partner will lead to a lasting future together. Remember that it takes two equally dedicated people to make a relationship work so that is why both people need to make this effort to understand each other.

As I just pointed out, there are going to be times that you will not see eye to eye with someone, no matter how much you try to explain yourself. Rather than trying to challenge your partner, take the time to really absorb what they are trying to express to you and learn to accept them. You will find that sometimes this is best in order to keep the peace and harmony within the relationship. It is okay to have your differences and to express them but one should never feel judged or misunderstood within a relationship. Another good lesson that ties into understanding is having the capacity to pick your battles and to be the bigger person. You need to be able to step outside the situation and look at the bigger picture: Is it worth it to cause an issue? If the answer is no, then it is up to you to accept and understand your partner at the end of the day. You will both be happier and continue to create a stronger bond with one another.

How My Money Perspective Has Changed From My 20s to My 30s – What Would I Do Differently? (If Anything)

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As I reflect about my life and my relationship with money, I would definitely say that my approach to spending, saving, and investing has radically changed over the years. Am I just becoming older and wiser or does the current state of the economy have any impact on my views on money? It can be a combination of things but I do believe that with life experience comes more knowledge. I have always had a passion for building wealth and that is something that has not changed since my 20s but my perspective is definitely different now and there are many ways in which I view money differently than I did a decade ago.

Having Money In My Bank Account Means More Than Spending It – I have always been a rather good money saver but over the years, I have become an even more aggressive saver. Why? As I have aged, it is just more satisfying to have a bigger bank account than to spend money on material goods or going out. I am much more willing to sacrifice my desires and wants now than I was able to in my youth. It comes more natural for me to say no to unnecessary purchases and to just save my money instead. For me personally, it just feels good to have a lot of money stored away in a bank account than to spend it.

Spending Money on Clothes Doesn’t Excite Me Anymore – I have always had a love for fashion and wearing stylish and flattering clothing. That would also mean having the nicest shoes and handbags to go with my outfits. Fast forward to the present moment and I now do not care about clothing like I used to. Over the years, I have accumulated a wonderful wardrobe of classics and staple pieces that still fit and look great year after year. This is why there really is no need to go out and constantly buy new clothes unless it is an item that is worn out and in need of a replacement. I also want to point out a valuable life lesson: No one really cares what you wear more than yourself. So there really is no need to overspend on clothing or feel the need to impress anyone because no one really cares about the clothing you wear. That is not to say that you should totally neglect your self image but to consciously make an effort to be less vain because at the end of the day–no one cares what you wear!

I am Obsessed With My Retirement Savings – When you are in your 20s, you do not really think about retirement enough unless you are taught the importance of compound interest and investing as early as you can. Fortunately, my mother had me open an IRA account at the age of 18 years old. While I was making contributions to my IRA as much as I could at the time (which wasn’t too much), my biggest regret is not making a conscious effort to max out my IRA contribution every single year. When I turned 30 years old, I made the conscious effort to start doing that and have really seen the increase over the years which is very encouraging. This motivates me to keep investing into my retirement and watching it grow over time.

My Time Is More Valuable Than Money – Despite how much I prioritize working and making money, as I have gotten older–I have tried to have more of a balance between my work life and personal life. In other words, I cherish and value having quality time as opposed to working nonstop. Sometimes you have to take the time to say no to work and actually enjoy living your life. I would rather just work less and make more as opposed to feeling like I need to work constantly. In the past, I would push myself to work as much as I can, even if that meant less free time to do the things that I loved. Although I still would consider myself a hard worker, I have toned down the intensity and have made having free time more of a priority over work.

Booking a Vacation Is Worth Every Penny – I have been an avid traveler since my mid to late 20s when I started to make a high enough income to allocate money towards one of my biggest passions in life–international travel. To this day, I still believe that travel is money well spent and something that I would never regret spending because the memories that are created are so worth it. While not everyone might have a love for travel, it is important to find something that you love and allow yourself to spend the money on your desired category of choice with zero regrets. I spent the money on travel then and will continue to spend my hard earned money on travel throughout the course of my lifetime. It can be an expensive hobby but it is one that I will always justify as an essential expense.