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Happy New Year…Cheers to 2025 and 5 Years of Blogging

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I realized I didn’t post last week but that Wednesday fell on Christmas day and then New Year’s Day also fell on Wednesday which are the days that I typically post. December is always an incredibly busy month for me because aside from Christmas, I have my husband’s birthday on Christmas, my birthday on December 28th, my wedding anniversary on December 22nd. I have so many happy and festive events this time of year which I look forward to every year!

It is hard to believe that I just celebrated my two year wedding anniversary as this second year went even faster than our first year married. I do believe that when life is good, your life tends to go by even faster. I guess also with age, the years go by faster which is why it is important to cherish every moment.

It is also hard to believe that I have been blogging for five years, that’s half a decade! I started this at the height of covid. I am happy that so much has changed since covid and that we can put that chapter of life in the past and move forward. Since covid, I can’t thank the Universe enough for all that I have manifested in my life. I preach a lot about manifestation and I can honestly say that it works with the right mindset, positivity, and patience. As I continue my life’s path, I know that more abundance and many great things are in the making. This includes the next big chapter of my life: Motherhood. Although this is not happening until a little later in 2025, I feel that I have reached that stage in life whereI am ready to take a break from blogging to focus on my future and the exciting chapter that is about to unfold this year. It is bittersweet to write this last blog entry but I am happy to have been a blogger for the past five years. I feel that my content has touched many lives and my readers can still access everything that I have written in the past. Thank you to everyone who read my blogs and subscribed. As I end this, I do want to wish everyone an amazing 2025!

Tis the Season to Make the Effort to Be Kind and Generous

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With Christmas right around the corner–in a week to be exact, it is important to preach both kindness and generosity. While of course I believe it is important to be kind and generous on a daily basis–I do believe that this is the time of year especially to step up your efforts up a notch. That might mean tipping higher the next time you are at a restaurant or to someone who provides a service for you. That might mean making a donation to an organization or to donate items to the less fortunate. Whether you are impacted or not by a heavily inflated economy or the financial stresses that the holidays could bring, remember that there are always people who are in need and that are in less fortunate situations than you are. Many people often only think about themselves or their families but it is important to step outside of yourself and to think about those who could be positively impacted with even a small gesture of kindness and generosity.

If you are not in a good financial situation yourself and you truly cannot afford to be generous at the moment, then if you can find a way to be kind to someone, that could still add a lot of spiritual value to someone’s life. There are many people who suffer from low self esteem and don’t feel good about themselves. Simply giving a compliment to someone who isn’t used to receiving one could really brighten someone’s day. Don’t underestimate how little actions can actually make a difference in this world! 🙂

Timing Is One of Life’s Best Friends

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Another way to look at this title is a common saying that you might already be familiar with: “There is a time and place for everything.” This is very accurate despite what your current circumstances or your present reality look like. Never be discouraged if you don’t have what you want right now–it most likely just isn’t your time just yet! I know no one wants to hear that but it is important to understand this basic principle of life. Oftentimes, we plan for every little thing in our lives with the expectation that it will go our way but the truth of the matter is that sometimes the things we plan for are out of our hands and it is just a matter of remaining patient in knowing that with the right amount of time, we will receive everything that we want. While we live in a world where we value instant gratification, that’s just not how the Universe works. We often have to take some detours and to experience some important life lessons before we get to the final destination.

Remember that timing is truly one life’s best friends and we should learn to value the journey more than getting discouraged when life events don’t align with our personal timelines. While I am all about being proactive and planning, sometimes you simply have to go with the flow and let life unfold as it is destined to.

Why Silience Always Builds Attraction and How to Apply It to Social Media

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People who have the least amount to say, often have the most power in a situation and tend to build attraction naturally. While it might seem counterintuitive, it makes sense because when someone remains silent or does not have a lot to say, this creates an aura of mystique where you are questioning what this person is thinking. If you sent a message to someone and this person did not respond, you are going to be left wondering: Why did this person not reply? What is this person doing? Was it something I said? It is for this reason that it is often good to pace your communication, especially if it is with a new love interest. Being silent or taking longer to reply will often work to your advantage. It will keep their mind fixated on you as opposed to giving the person too much attention where there is no room in their mind to miss you. There are many people who are impulsive and who are always striving for instant gratification which means being in constant contact with someone. I never recommend this approach because this can burn out the relationship very quickly in most scenarios. It is much wiser to practice patience and to take your time when communicating with someone new.

On social media, you will see there are people who post content daily. While for some it might be needed for their careers, for many others– they choose to share the personal details of their lives regularly which is typically a sign that they are starving for attention and validation from the outside world. Sadly, this is not the way to gain attraction. I would advise to be selective as to what you choose to share and to share your personal content more sparingly. When I see a person post too often, I usually find it very cringy–especially if the person is using their social media platform to try to show off or brag in some way. That is why it is always way more attractive when a person is unpredictable and you cannot predict their next move or know what they are up to. If you are someone who likes to post all the time, take some breaks and refrain from posting. You will notice that people will be much more interested in what you have to say because you are doing it less often. Remember that when something is rare and more out of reach, it becomes more intriguing. That is why your personal life should not be so easily accessible to the masses and that you should be extra selective as to what you want to share with your audience.

Reality Vs. False Hope – It’s Time to Stop Living in La La Land

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While an abundance of positivity and hope are two wonderful things to possess as we all navigate our lives, there does come a point where too much positivity and hope can actually blind you from reality and hinder you from living your best life. Sometimes people become so hopeful of their future that this causes them to not really take action towards their goals because they believe they can manifest anything in existence without any effort. As I hope many of you realize–this is so FAR from reality and a life in total la la land! The Universe is powerful and has much to offer to everyone but I like to remind people that it is not a genie bottle where you put a wish out there and it just comes into fruition. There is still conscious intent and inner work that needs to take place in order to make things happen.

As hard as it is to face reality at times, no matter what–you should always opt to live in REALITY. When you live with false hope, you usually end up more disappointed, you can stunt your self growth, and it could impact your ego negatively in the long run. When you live in reality, at least you are building more resilience and essentially are embracing the TRUTH. As harsh as reality can be, it is better to live in real life versus a sugar coated version of life. I encourage everyone to be super real with self when it comes to your expectations, goals, and aspirations. From there, you can work towards everything that you want and then you will receive everything you desire (and probably even more). The Universe will reward you with your efforts and you will feel good in knowing that you created your abundant reality all by yourself!

Rejection Is Redirection – Learn to Embrace This New Direction

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Over the summer, I stumbled across a quote, “rejection is redirection.” I could not agree more with this quote! So often you see people react to rejection incredibly negatively. It can stir up emotions such as self doubt, frustration, depression, and basically put someone in a scarcity mindset. One starts to question, “What is wrong with me? Why am I a reject?” This is the wrong way to think! Rejection should never be taken as defeat. There are many ways to actually interpret rejection in a positive way such as: “The best is yet to come and something better is destined to manifest into my life.” “Let me look at this as a time to work on self improvement.”

If anything, rejection should serve as a MOTIVATING FACTOR to work harder at whatever it is that you want to achieve. It is not a time to give up on your goals or desires but to perhaps explore other options that will help you get to your end goal. If you decided to give up any time you failed at something or got rejected, you would never get ahead in life and would stay in a stagnant low place. You are also hindering yourself from self development by not investing the time that is needed to grow spiritually. So the next time you get rejected, accept it with grace and don’t feel bad about yourself. Look at this as an opportunity to improve your life and take the action that is needed to achieve your goals still–even if it takes you longer than you anticipated or means that you have to start over.

Relating back to the quote, sometimes rejection could also be a sign from the Universe that your goals need to shift and redirect in its entirety which might mean that new goals need to be established–and there is nothing wrong with that! Sometimes this is an inevitable reality and allows you to expand on other things you could achieve that you never had thought about previously. Remember that at the end of the day, under no circumstances should you let rejection get the best of you. There are often many silver linings in life and often rejection could lead to something much better in your life path even if you do not see that at the present moment. You have to continue to persevere and carry on with your life with a positive mindset.

My Thoughts on Botox and Aging – Is it Really Necessary?

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Aging can be a rather touchy subject as it is a question that many don’t like to be asked: “How old are you?” In your youth, you most likely didn’t think much about aging or care when people asked you that. Partially because when you are young, there is this feeling of invincibility. However, as you get older, you probably view life very differently and it can be a subject that you dread to talk about. The thing is, everything always comes down to your mindset and perception. As a society, we should not view aging as a bad thing. With age comes more wisdom and life experience which are both spiritually valuable things. We also have to remember that every year of life is a blessing and aging is just a part of the process. While it might not be the most physically desirable process, we should all feel blessed to have the opportunity of living a long life and prize longevity.

We live in a modern world where there are many ways to keep up with your appearances and still maintain a youthful look. There is also the freedom to do what makes us happy and make changes to our appearances if they serve as a confidence booster or make us feel good. When it comes to something like botox which is so readily available nowadays, while I don’t have an issue with it–I do think that people should not view wrinkles as a bad thing. It is totally natural and expected to happen with age. In addition, I also think people should really do their research and determine if it is worth doing after going through the pros and cons. Sometimes doing these types of facial procedures can actually make a person look worse and the person was better off not doing it to begin with. Instead of turning to botox, there definitely are more natural approaches to aging gracefully such as avoiding long periods of time in the sun or investing in natural skincare products that keep the skin smooth.

On the other hand, there are definitely situations where people do go far off the deep end with making dramatic physical changes to appear significantly younger. Again, I am not someone who wants to judge but I am someone who would want to examine why there is a need to go through drastic measures in order to feel good. People should really focus their energy in all their areas of life and not put the highest emphasis on their physical looks because looks do fade and that’s a part of life. There are better things to care about such as your achieving your life goals, pursuing your intrinsic passions, spending time with the people you care about, and other things that matter most to you personally.

Learn to Be Happy With Less – Here’s Why

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While I am someone who will always preach about the abundance of the Universe and how to attract abundance, I also want to teach a very simple and valuable lesson: Learn to be happy with less. That is not to say that you should deprive yourself of what life has to offer or to scale down your life goals. By all means, I think everyone should be striving for the best in life and not set any limitations. However, what I am saying is to actually take the time to enjoy the littlest of things and practice more gratitude for what you have achieved so far and what you currently have in life.

So often, you will see people compare themselves to others and be like, “Oh I am so jealous of that person for having that house” or “Why can’t I have a nicer car?” There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. There are ways to project this feeling into a more POSITIVE and happier mindset without feeling like you lack something. It is crucial to actually be thankful for what you currently possess at the present moment as opposed to complaining that you don’t have what you want right now. You will have plenty of time to also receive the same things from the Universe if you focus on these things consistently and your gratitude will actually attract more things into your life. It is also important to be HAPPY for others and their achievements. By seeing that others have certain things–instead of feeling jealous, it should be a reminder to self that if someone else is capable of having something then guess what–so are you and it is just a matter of time.

I think when you learn to be happy about the little things and without needing to have so much in order to create personal fulfillment, you bring an overall sense of joy into your life. Oftentimes, less is actually MORE and this is a good mindset to implement. This adds more meaning to the smaller things and then when bigger things are attracted into your life, you have an extra sense of gratitude because you weren’t necessarily expecting it or depending on these things.

Why Some People Take Things More Personally Than Others

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While personalities vary and some people are potentially born more sensitive than others, there are other factors that can contribute to a person’s sensitivity level. Those factors include both life experiences and a person’s environment. Think about it, if someone grows up living in a bubble where they are never given consequences for their behaviors or told that they are great at everything with minimal effort–then any little insult or negative comment is going to hurt them because they were never exposed to adversity or hardships. On the other hand, if you have someone who has experienced more rejections in life or had a tougher living situation, this person is going to have a thicker skin and become mentally stronger over time. Maybe initially, they might feel weak, hurt, and extra sensitive but they tend to overcome these negative feelings because they are forced to cope and persevere.

Remember that it is always much more rewarding to have to work harder at things, to experience failures, to not be living a cushy life where everything is handed to you, and to embrace any challenges that come along the way because you are developing a stronger mindset and therefore will not take things as personally. It is okay to feel sensitive from time to time but ultimately, it is best to know how to adapt and learn how to regulate your emotions. The ability to self monitor your emotions is a life skill that needs to be developed and ideally it is something that should be taught as early as early childhood. Keep in mind that this is a skill that can improve throughout the course of your lifetime and it is never too late to consciously make the effort to become more mentally tough.

A Strong Need to Be Perfect is Actually Detrimental for Self Development for These Reasons

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It is natural in life to want to strive for perfection in different areas of your life. Maybe you are someone who strives for perfect grades or wants to be the perfect athlete. It is healthy to want to be your personal best but if it borders on obsession then this is far from healthy. The main reason being is that it is impossible to be perfect at everything because perfection is a facade. I would always encourage people to find their strengths and to develop their passions but not to feel the need to be absolutely perfect at everything because it is a lost cause and not really elevating your self development in the long run. There are also a handful of underlying issues associated with striving for perfection which I am going to discuss here.

Trying Too Hard to Be Perfect Actually Displays a Controlling Personality – This might not apply to everyone but someone who wants to be perfect typically has a strong need to control everything in their lives. This is not a healthy quality to possess especially when it comes to your self development. In life, you are simply not going to be able to control everything. While it is good to plan ahead and try to control most things, there are going to be many instances where you need to go with the flow and let things happen as they are supposed to.

There are Always Going to be People Better Than You – It is important to face the reality that there are always going to be people better than you and you cannot be the very best at everything that you pursue in life. You might have a long list of talents and skills that you excel at but it is a waste of your mental energy if you think that you can perfect everything. This is a false sense of reality because there are many times in your life that you are going to need to experience FAILURE in order to SUCCEED. It might sound counterintuitive but it is actually those moments when you fail that will teach you to think of ways to overcome these failures and to propel you to find ways to progress in life. So it is healthy to not be perfect and to experience failures in order to keep your ego in check along with giving you the proper coping skills that are needed during those times when things do not go your way.

You Don’t Need to Be Perfect to Be Accepted – Maybe this does not apply to everyone but I find that people who have this inner need to be perfect are actually people who suffer from low self esteem. Think about it–a person with high self esteem does NOT need to be perfect. This person is confident in knowing that they have their flaws and can accept themselves as is. If someone goes too far out of their way to be “perfect,” it is because they feel that they are missing something or that they are not good enough. Being good enough means that you can take the good with the bad. A highly confident person understands that there is no need to be the most attractive, rich, or amazing person in order to feel good about self. When you see a person who does a ton of plastic surgery to create that “perfect” image, this is actually a person who is screaming from the inside, “I need to do all these extreme things to look perfect in order to feel good inside and to receive validation from others because I do not love myself.” There is nothing wrong about caring about your appearance but if you see someone go overboard, then you know that this person is deeply insecure and does not feel accepted unless they strive for a perfection that does not even really exist.