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The Underlying Issues Behind Why People Overpost on Social Media

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Ever notice that some people post on social media way more than others? While some like to keep a low profile and not share too much on social media, there is also the opposite extreme where you see people who post every day or perhaps multiple times a day. In all honesty, when I notice people post very often, especially content regarding self, I cannot help but immediately think: This person is a total narcissist. Although I do not like to mislabel everyone who overposts to be this way, that sometimes can be the case. Aside from that, there are many other reasons why people choose to post regularly on their social media accounts.

Low Self Esteem – People with low self esteem are constantly in need of external validation in order to feed themselves with what they cannot feed themselves internally–recognizing their own self worth. So sadly, you will see someone post quite often as they hope to gain the attention from others including those whom they admire such as a crush or an ex they want to bring back into their lives. The problem with this is, overposting does not really guarantee validation from others so this could cause someone to be very upset if a social media post or story doesn’t receive many likes or approval as expected.

Needs to Be Center of Attention or Show Off – We live in a very self-centered society where unfortunately, people rely on social media to remain relevant, brag to others about how great their lives are, or to just attract as much attention as possible. It partially stems from low self esteem as stated above but it also can serve as a form of narcissism which I also mentioned at the start.

Has Too Much Time on Their Hands – Simply put, some people truly have too much time on their hands! This could mean that the person is unemployed or doesn’t have much of a fulfilling life going on so instead of working, utilizing their time to set goals, pursuing their passions, socializing in real life, or making a contribution to the world, this person chooses to just waste their time behind their screens to kill time. This sadly creates laziness, unmotivation, and provides little to no spiritual value to their lives. The only exception to this is if a person is using their social media to promote a business in which it is necessary to create daily content or perhaps this person wants to share a very special life milestone event or achievement which could be rewarding for their viewers.

Why Younger Generations Are Often Labeled Lazy And Ways to Prevent This

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While today’s youth face many challenges such as a higher cost of living, significantly higher costs for college education, and just an overall harder time getting ahead in life–it is somewhat understandable why it can take longer for young adults to get established and become financially independent. However, despite all of these setbacks, there are definitely ways to overcome this and to set up the younger generations for success. People complain that the younger generations are lazy and don’t want to work hard for anything. They favor instant gratification and doing what is least required of them in order to get by. While I don’t want to generalize everyone to be in this category, I do have to agree that this is the common trend with the youth nowadays. While many do not want to hear this, this issue stems mostly from PARENTING. If you parent your children in a way to allow them to achieve their goals and build them to be independent adults as opposed to dependent and needy adult children, then you are doing the right thing. Unfortunately, I see many parents who are doing the opposite which is ultimately creating a very lazy generation where they simply do not possess the life skills to survive out in the real world outside the comfort of their parents’ homes.

One of the biggest issues is that many parents are failing their children by overindulging their kids and handing everything to them without them working for anything. This is a huge mistake that often backfires in the long run. Parents complain that their adult children do not want to work or go out and get jobs. Well do you blame them? Why would they if they can get everything provided to them for free at home? It is essential that you teach your kids the value of building a strong worth ethic at an early age and understand the importance of developing a career that they love in order to be happy in life while also being able to create financial stability. If you buy your kids everything, then they get used to this way of life where they do not have to try or make any effort because everything is free at their disposal. So whenever they need something, as opposed to going out in the world to earn it, they are just going to expect that their parents will continue to provide everything for them. If this was a pattern that you fell into as a parent, then it is important to step up, establish boundaries, and BREAK THE CYCLE. Otherwise your kids are going to be adult children who mooch off of you forever which will not only eat a way at your retirement savings but also hinder your children from growing up and making something out of themselves.

It is incredibly sad to me to see so many young adults still depending on their family’s resources when they are fully capable of working and paying their own bills. That is why it is up to parents to make their children learn the value of money by making them learn how to earn it themselves and get them to pay for their own expenses when they are old enough to work. This prevents them from expecting free handouts all the time and pushes them to think outside the box and develop passions that will build into wealth over time. That is why it is necessary that parents TEACH the value behind hard work and set high expectations for their children so that they can thrive as adults.

Rejection Is Redirection – Learn to Embrace This New Direction

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Over the summer, I stumbled across a quote, “rejection is redirection.” I could not agree more with this quote! So often you see people react to rejection incredibly negatively. It can stir up emotions such as self doubt, frustration, depression, and basically put someone in a scarcity mindset. One starts to question, “What is wrong with me? Why am I a reject?” This is the wrong way to think! Rejection should never be taken as defeat. There are many ways to actually interpret rejection in a positive way such as: “The best is yet to come and something better is destined to manifest into my life.” “Let me look at this as a time to work on self improvement.”

If anything, rejection should serve as a MOTIVATING FACTOR to work harder at whatever it is that you want to achieve. It is not a time to give up on your goals or desires but to perhaps explore other options that will help you get to your end goal. If you decided to give up any time you failed at something or got rejected, you would never get ahead in life and would stay in a stagnant low place. You are also hindering yourself from self development by not investing the time that is needed to grow spiritually. So the next time you get rejected, accept it with grace and don’t feel bad about yourself. Look at this as an opportunity to improve your life and take the action that is needed to achieve your goals still–even if it takes you longer than you anticipated or means that you have to start over.

Relating back to the quote, sometimes rejection could also be a sign from the Universe that your goals need to shift and redirect in its entirety which might mean that new goals need to be established–and there is nothing wrong with that! Sometimes this is an inevitable reality and allows you to expand on other things you could achieve that you never had thought about previously. Remember that at the end of the day, under no circumstances should you let rejection get the best of you. There are often many silver linings in life and often rejection could lead to something much better in your life path even if you do not see that at the present moment. You have to continue to persevere and carry on with your life with a positive mindset.

Why Some People Take Things More Personally Than Others

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While personalities vary and some people are potentially born more sensitive than others, there are other factors that can contribute to a person’s sensitivity level. Those factors include both life experiences and a person’s environment. Think about it, if someone grows up living in a bubble where they are never given consequences for their behaviors or told that they are great at everything with minimal effort–then any little insult or negative comment is going to hurt them because they were never exposed to adversity or hardships. On the other hand, if you have someone who has experienced more rejections in life or had a tougher living situation, this person is going to have a thicker skin and become mentally stronger over time. Maybe initially, they might feel weak, hurt, and extra sensitive but they tend to overcome these negative feelings because they are forced to cope and persevere.

Remember that it is always much more rewarding to have to work harder at things, to experience failures, to not be living a cushy life where everything is handed to you, and to embrace any challenges that come along the way because you are developing a stronger mindset and therefore will not take things as personally. It is okay to feel sensitive from time to time but ultimately, it is best to know how to adapt and learn how to regulate your emotions. The ability to self monitor your emotions is a life skill that needs to be developed and ideally it is something that should be taught as early as early childhood. Keep in mind that this is a skill that can improve throughout the course of your lifetime and it is never too late to consciously make the effort to become more mentally tough.

Good Health Is More Than Just Diet and Exercise

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When people think about being healthy, I would say that the first thing that comes to mind would most likely be diet and/or exercise. While I would absolutely agree that both are contributing factors to living a healthy lifestyle and extending your longevity; however, there are so many other aspects of being healthy that should not be overlooked. I made a short list of other things that people should also prioritize and balance out if needed in addition to eating healthy foods, taking health supplements, and working out. (If there is anything that I forgot to mention, be sure to share it in the comments below)!

Quality and Quantity of Sleep – I write the quality and quantity of sleep because both are equally important. It can be tough for people to fall asleep at night or clock in enough hours of sleep. As a result, that leaves people with low energy levels and over time can deteriorate one’s quality of life. Good sleep is a universal necessity that everyone can benefit from. I always recommend that if your schedule permits, find a time in the day to add a nap if needed to add some extra sleep time in your day.

Self Care (ex: skincare, personal grooming, etc.) – The way in which you take care of yourself matters and this is often a category that gets ignored due to a busy lifestyle. No matter how many professional and personal obligations that you have, it is essential to add self care to that list because taking care of yourself is a necessity! For me personally, self care can include the little things such as taking the time to wear products with sun protection during the summer months. It also means scheduling a monthly facial and/or massage. Never neglect yourself because you are your most valuable asset and deserve to be pampered!

Stress Levels – Throughout the course of our lives, it is natural that you will experience stress but it is important to try to find ways to eliminate stress in its entirety or find things to aid in reducing stress such as meditation. It is said that stress is a silent killer in people’s lives and that too much of it over time can take a serious toll on one’s life. It is for this reason that people need to try their very best to keep their stress levels at bay.

Mental Health – This often can be a taboo subject but it is definitely an aspect of life that should never be ignored. If you are not in a good place in your life, it is important to utilize the right resources to get you back on the right track. That might mean scheduling therapy sessions with a professional or going to a doctor to get a prescription. There should be no shame in seeking help when needed.

Happiness – Last but certainly not least, let’s not forget about increasing and maintaining your happiness levels. Your satisfaction with life matters and you should make this a focal point by pursuing the things that you love and eliminating the things that do not suit a purpose in your life. That might mean getting a new job, getting out of a toxic relationship, booking a vacation, and/or finding quality time to spend with your friends or family. Whatever it is that makes YOU happy, go for it! 🙂