As we experience life, we come across many people we have the opportunity to get to know and we ultimately are in control of whether or not we want them to be a part of our social circle. By social circle, I am referring to friends although it can easily apply to acquaintances as well such as a co worker or someone you met through mutual friends. I have very close knit friends whom I talk to on a regular basis but I also have many acquaintances that I might only connect with a handful of times in a year or over the years but they are people I value as a part of my social circle. It is essential to build a high quality social circle because they do not only serve as people you enjoy spending your free time with but also as a support system if you ever needed advice or insight on a specific area of your life. I also very much believe in the Laws of Attraction which is why it is especially crucial to choose the right people to be a part of your life because it affects the energy you manifest along with how your destiny is going to unfold.

What qualities are important to look for? What specific qualities are most important to you? This list can vary from person-to-person but here are a few key attributes to look for.

Happy for Your Happiness and Success – I find this to be the most important thing to really look for because you want to surround yourself with people who support you and will be your biggest cheerleader when you achieve an accomplishment, reach an important milestone, or experience something extraordinary without a hint of jealousy or negativity.

There For You During Both Good Times and Bad Times – Life is never going to be perfect and it is inevitable that there will be some bumps along the way which is normal and to be expected. The question is, is this person going to be there for you during those bad times? If you need some support, it is important to choose people who are reliable and going to actually be there for you when needed, not just when things are sunshine and rainbows.

Accepts You for Who You Are Without Any Harsh Judgments – It is very easy to judge someone on the surface for something they said or did but rather than judging, one should really take the time to understand the person which in this case is you. You ultimately want people to accept your flaws and perceived mistakes in life rather than looking down upon you or as a lesser person. They take the good with the bad and appreciate you for you.

Adds Value to Your Life (Not Convenience) and Vice Versa – This can be interpreted in many ways but when looking for people who add value to your life, I am not referring to convenience as there is a difference between the two. By value, I am referring to someone you might look up to as a person to emulate, someone you deeply respect, or perhaps someone you think is all-around awesome. In return, you also provide a high level of value and they are not just keeping you around because you add convenience to them in some way.

Takes the Time to Invest in You – Most people you come across will not really care about you (it might sound like a harsh reality–but let’s just be real here). They will be too caught up within their own lives, might have too much going on both professionally and personally, or just do not take the time to get to know you all too well. That is why you need to have a heightened sense of awareness of who is really investing in you while also being super selective in who you allow to get close to you on a connected spiritual level. It goes both ways in which they can make the choice to invest in you but you actually make the final call in terms of the depth of their investment.