While success can look very different from one person to another and an individual’s level of success can be a combination of various contributing factors–there is no denying that one of the most important aspects of elevating success stems from a person’s MINDSET. Your mindset guides your beliefs, work ethic, discipline, your life’s path, and so much more. If your mindset determines that you are destined for success, then you are already on a good path to getting there. If you do not believe that you are capable or deserving of a great life full of abundance and success, then unfortunately, you are less likely to attract that into your life.
Remember that everything starts with your mind. That is why it is up to you to consciously generate positive thoughts and to build a strong mindset that propels you to accomplish everything that you want to accomplish in your lifetime. It is natural to feel down at times and/or to experience fear but never let the negativity overthrow your mindset. If you personally do not believe in your own success, that is a setback that you need to work on overcoming. It is important to recognize this so that there is room for spiritual growth and to allow for you to make the internal changes that are needed in developing a better mindset.
At the end of the day, success starts with YOU and how you THINK! 😉
There are many factors that can hinder people from having a successful dating life and one of the biggest that I see are those who possess a scarcity mindset. What is a scarcity mindset and how does it apply to dating? A scarcity mindset stems from the thought that there are limited options and that there are not enough resources to go around. So as a result, a person with a scarcity mindset believes that they must hold onto dear life everything that they have because something else might not come their way. I can assure you that this is extremely far from the truth! Let’s not forget that we live in an abundant world with lots of opportunities which means that you should never settle upon anything and this is especially true when it comes to dating!
Here are the most common things that I hear people say and I am here to tell you that this is NOT the way to think because it is coming from a place of scarcity when you should train your brain to live ABUNDANTLY.
“I am not happy with my current relationship but I do not think that I could ever find someone again.” – This is a horrible way to think! This essentially is saying that it is okay to settle for unhappiness because there is no hope in finding someone who could be a better suited match. I do believe that two people can find a healthy way to make things work within a relationship but at the same time, if in your heart you know that this is not the one, it is not wise to keep the relationship going just because you do not think you could find someone better. You won’t know unless you break off the relationship, put yourself out there, and explore other dating opportunities.
“I do not think that I will ever find someone this good so I will do whatever it takes to keep them in my life, even if that means that I have to make personal sacrifices that I am not happy about.” – This to me not only conveys that this person has a scarcity mindset but it also shows that this person holds onto many insecurities. I say this because a secure person would not feel they have to bend over backwards just to keep someone around and would want an equal partnership. Someone who is very insecure might feel they have to do a lot in order to compensate for what they are lacking inside and feel that they will only be loved if they go above and beyond for the other person even if that means that the other person is not reciprocating and treats them as a doormat.
“I am never going to find anyone so what is the point of even looking?” – Wow, I do not think it could get much worse than this! This is such a depressing way to think and goes to show that a person that thinks this way is not thinking with an abundant mind. A person with an abundance mindset would know that there is someone for everyone and that they will eventually find their match because there are plenty of people they could connect with and potentially date.
When it comes to health and fitness, they always say to eat a nutritious diet and to find time to exercise. While these are a great set of general advice to follow, it is important to determine what that means for you in particular (ex: what are your fitness goals?) and finding ways to maximize your results. Is there a way to take these basic tips a step further? Of course the answer is YES! I will share a few things that dramatically made a difference for me this past year alone and habits that I will continue to follow.
Incorporate a Healthy Balance of Natural Foods Within Each Food Group – When finding the right diet, there are so many different diets that exist and many are very restrictive where they eliminate certain food groups altogether or they just are not realistic because of all the food sacrifices that are needed to be made in order to follow the diet. BALANCE is the key to most things and I find with diet, this applies as well. In the past, I would try doing mostly an all protein diet or focus on fruits and vegetables but it took me time to realize that it is important to really eat a nutritiously dense mix of foods from ALL food groups. Even if the foods seem to be too calorically “heavy,” remember that the right foods are the building blocks to muscle growth so being too restrictive with your food choices could actually be setting back your workout results. It is for this reason that you should be focusing on having a good mix of everything (ex: healthy fats, carbohydrates, proteins, etc.).
Find More Challenging Exercises to Add to Your Daily Routine – As they say, “if it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you” and guess what, this also applies to exercise! Last year, I decided to join a Barre Studio because I knew that the workouts were challenging in which the moves in the class were things that I would never push myself to do at a gym. I committed to taking the class 4-5 days a week and after just a couple of months, I already noticed it made a difference! This was the push that I needed to take my workouts to a different level. While I am not saying that you need to specifically join a Barre Studio, I am just recommending finding something that truly challenges you and pushes your limits if you are looking to see lasting results.
Weight Training Everyday Is NOT Necessary to Get Results – Oftentimes, people think that the more that you workout, the more beneficial that it is for your body. I used to weight train almost everyday but learned that just incorporating a few weight training sessions a week is just as effective and perhaps more effective so that it gives the body ample rest time in between the workouts to rest. It also keeps the body guessing and not too used to performing any particular movement at any particular time. I noticed that cutting back on the strength training workouts did not make me weaker in any way and also did not ruin my progress. So do not feel that you have to weight train a crazy amount of time in order to maintain a healthy and toned physique.
Hi all and happy new year! I can’t believe I am writing my first blog for 2023. It is always a new adjustment at the start of the new year and usually a time to reflect on the upcoming year ahead. To be honest, I have not made the time to do that just yet or to set new goals for 2023 but will plan to write my intentions for 2023 in the near future.
It is hard saying goodbye to 2022 because that was one of the best years of my life. The number 22 happens to be my lucky number so I could also be a little bias. Aside from that, I got married at the end of 2022 and it truly was one of the most magical and sentimental days of my life filled with an incredible amount of love and warmth. The day totally exceeded my expectations in terms of anything I could have ever imagined. When people say that their wedding day was the happiest day of their lives, I totally understand this now. ❤
Aside from having a great year, I have to remember that life keeps getting better and that there are many new memories and experiences on the horizon that I have not created just yet. It’s only the beginning…are you ready? I know that I am!
Happy new year everyone and I hope that everyone sets their intentions high not just because it is a new year but because it should be an everyday practice! 😉