Daily Archives: September 28, 2021

What to Do When Someone Tries to Make You Jealous

There are going to be times when people go out of their way to try to make you jealous, whether it be intentional on their part or sometimes it could be done inadvertently. Whatever the case may be, there are different approaches to handle these situations. Every situation is situational in that it depends on the person (such as someone close to you or someone who is more of an acquaintance) and if it was an action or maybe a comment said to you. Regardless, first and foremost, never let someone get the best of you and give it no serious thought. In other words, just dismiss it as opposed to thinking about it to the point where it will bring you down. From there, you have some options as to how you want to go about it in terms of dealing with the person who is trying to make you jealous.

Ignore It Altogether – If someone is trying to make you jealous, chances are that this person wants to impact you negatively or wants to evoke some sort of reaction out of you. It is for this reason that it can be better psychology to just ignore it completely because the person will eventually give up this behavior if they know that you are mentally strong and that it has no effect on you whatsoever. It is kind of like the expression, “talking to a brick wall” and you’re the wall where there is absolutely no response. As a result, the other person will eventually get bored after awhile.

Call the Person Out on It – If you know the person very well, I think it is okay at times to actually call the person out on their behavior as a way to correct it. Sometimes people truly are not self aware enough to realize how something they said or done to make someone jealous is inappropriate, rude, hurtful, etc. Although it might feel a little uncomfortable to confront someone, I don’t think it hurts to speak up because you might actually be doing the person a favor so that they do not continue to do this–not only to you but to others.

Consider Cutting This Person Out of Your Life – I know this sounds harsh but if there is someone within your social circle who has developed a pattern of trying to stir up feelings of jealousy onto you, I would strongly question why this person is in your life to begin with. I understand if the person is a co worker whom you see daily that it might be hard to let this person go or if the person is a family member, then this could also be a challenge; however, you can at the very least limit your contact with this person. On the other hand, if this is a person whom you choose to have as a part of your life such as a friend or significant other, I think it might be a good time to reassess if this person is worth keeping close to you.