There are many factors as to why a relationship might come to an end but I think a very common one is complacency in which two people do not do put much effort to keep the relationship strong and healthy. With anything in life, what you invest your energy towards is what you will receive in return. I do believe it takes both people to want to make it work. Having one person giving everything while the other person doesn’t do anything will build resentment and ultimately break the foundation of any relationship because 50% (the one person’s effort) is never enough. As the common saying goes, it takes two to tango.
Designate Specific Times to be Together – When two people live very busy lives balancing their careers and families, it is easy for date nights and quality time to go completely out the window. However, if two people make an effort to find designated times a week or within the month to be together, this can definitely keep the connection going while giving both people something to look forward to.
Find Little Ways to Make Someone Happy – People know how to do nice things on birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays but why do people have to wait for these milestones to hit in order to express love towards one another? If you take the time to truly understand your partner, it should be rather easy to find ways to make the person happy in the most simplest ways. It does not have to be about how much money is spent, it could be a small gesture like sending lunch to their work for no reason or maybe giving the person a massage after a long work day if that is something they enjoy.
Give Each Other Space to Rebuild Attraction – I know this sounds counterintuitive but there is such a thing as spending too much time with each other. No matter who it is, over time, one if not both people are bound to get bored of each other if too much time is spent together. It is good to still keep some personal space and have individual activities you do without each other so that the actual time you do spend together holds more value.
Make Sacrifices for the Greater Good of the Relationship – Every couple has their differences which can cause problems to arise over time; however, it is important to be the bigger person and make sacrifices for the other person if it is going to bring you both closer in the long run. If this also means finding ways to take turns with each other’s personal preferences such as the types of movies/TV shows you watch, then it is important to do so to allow for both people to feel that their needs are equally being met.
Try New Activities and Discover New Places Together – Variety really is the spice in life and this goes for adding variety in your daily life, especially with your partner. You both might have established some favorite places and activities that you both enjoy together such as a favorite vacation spot but it is always good to expand your horizons by incorporating new things together.